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    Discover how to address sexual disconnection in marriage, navigate power imbalances, and rebuild intimacy when financial stress and communication problems have damaged your relationship.

    Rekindling Desire When Connection Fades

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    Real sexual intimacy is about two people choosing to be vulnerable and pleasurable with each other. When one person feels obligated and the other feels entitled, you've lost the mutuality that makes sex actually intimate.

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    I really feel sexually unfulfilled . I am doing things to increase my libido like TRT but I feel the sexual connection with my wife has been lost. Because I’m married I cannot allow myself to think about actually cheating even though intellectually I tell myself I am entitled to sex. My wife has a bad habit of screaming at me and ordering me to do things for her. I have very little money for myself because I pay all the bills and am constantly giving money to my wife. This stress conbinined

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