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    Lena and Eli brutally expose how your brain deceives you daily-from attachment patterns sabotaging relationships to cognitive biases hijacking decisions. No comfortable delusions allowed.

    Your Psychology is Lying to You

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    We're not rational beings who occasionally rationalize; we're rationalizing beings who occasionally stumble into rationality. Your brain is constantly editing your memories and perceptions to maintain a coherent, positive self-image.

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