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The Virtues That Backfire: Unmasking Leadership's Sacred Cows
What if the very virtues you cherish most are secretly sabotaging your success? Jake Breeden's "Tipping Sacred Cows" challenges our most fundamental assumptions about workplace values, revealing how seemingly positive traits like passion, fairness, and excellence can become destructive when pursued blindly. This provocative work has become required reading at companies like Google, Microsoft, and IBM, where executives recognize that unexamined virtues often create the most insidious problems. Breeden, whose insights have been sought across 27 countries as a Duke Corporate Education faculty member, doesn't just identify problems-he provides practical frameworks for transforming these sacred cows into genuine advantages. The book's counterintuitive wisdom has resonated with leaders tired of platitudes, earning praise from organizational psychologists and business leaders alike for its evidence-based approach to distinguishing between virtues that help and those that harm.
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When Balance Becomes Bland Compromise
Balance seems like an unassailable virtue in today's workplace. We praise "work-life balance," implement "balanced scorecards," and admire leaders who appear to juggle competing priorities with ease. Yet when balance becomes an excuse to avoid tough choices, it transforms from virtue to vice.
Consider Ann, a philanthropic adviser at a large bank who prided herself on maintaining perfect balance-splitting her time evenly between existing clients and prospects during a major industry conference. Meanwhile, her colleague Darren focused intensely on pursuing new prospects during the event, temporarily neglecting current clients. When Darren was promoted after bringing in $50 million in new assets, Ann confronted her boss about the disconnect between the company's stated value of balance and Darren's success.
What Ann missed was the "big lie of balance"-organizations praise balance but reward results. Darren's apparent imbalance during the conference was actually part of a larger pattern of balanced priorities. He made bold choices about when to focus on what mattered most.
Bill Gates exemplifies this approach through sequential focus-first building Microsoft with singular determination for 25 years, then shifting his extraordinary resources toward philanthropy through the Gates Foundation. In contrast, many leaders fall into "lukewarm leadership" by attempting to do everything simultaneously.
The distinction between "bland balance" (avoiding tough choices) and "bold balance" (making a series of courageous choices) determines whether balance helps or harms. The blandly balanced leader checks emails while chaperoning his daughter at the fair, while the boldly balanced leader fully engages with his daughter and responds to work the next morning.
Professor Jennifer Chatman's research identifies three traits of effective leaders: strong diagnostic capacity, flexible behavioral repertoire, and understanding of leadership paradoxes. Great leaders diagnose situations accurately, possess diverse leadership skills, and know when to deploy each one.
To achieve bold balance, audit for unnecessary compromise in your work-like marketing plans trying to serve multiple audiences simultaneously. Apply the athletic training principle of "sprinting in intervals" to leadership by dedicating focused bursts to different priorities rather than attempting mediocre multitasking. Make decisive choices rather than postponing difficult decisions-what consultant Chris Cappy calls avoiding "food in the fridge" leadership.
Hold strong opinions weakly, as futurist Paul Saffo recommends-stake out clear positions while remaining flexible enough to change when new data emerges. Manage your traits like a financial portfolio rather than seeking middle-ground compromise in each one. Create a "stop doing" list as Jim Collins suggests, eliminating activities that don't advance your most important objectives.
Balance can be beautiful and inspiring, like a yoga pose or an ice skater's figure eight. But the vision of elegant balance easily drifts into mediocrity and cowardly compromise. The courageous leader recognizes that balance isn't a safe hiding place but a bold pose to strike and hold.
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When Collaboration Becomes Automatic Rather Than Accountable
From kindergarten through college, we're programmed to collaborate. Consider "Shawn," who starts as an independent kindergartener but is gradually conditioned to work in groups through school and sports. By the time he enters the workforce, collaboration has become his default mode. He spends hours in meetings, works in open-plan offices, and stays constantly connected through virtual meetings and instant messaging. To actually accomplish work, he resorts to booking fake meetings or taking vacation days to work uninterrupted-essentially sneaking around to do his job rather than avoid it.
While collaboration has benefits, workplaces have swung from command-and-control isolation to mandatory teamwork for everything. This constant reliance on teams weakens individual productivity and accountability. The dual-CEO structure of RIM (makers of BlackBerry) exemplifies collaboration's potential pitfalls. Their failed BlackBerry PlayBook tablet demonstrates how shared leadership without clear accountability led to confusion-one CEO wanted it built for consumers while the other targeted businesses, resulting in a product that satisfied neither market.
Meetings represent "ritualized collaboration" that often involve more talking about work than doing it. Berkeley Professor Morten Hansen's research shows collaboration can sometimes create waste rather than value. In his study examining 182 sales teams, those spending more time getting help from others were actually less likely to win deals, as collaboration consumed time better spent improving their bids.
Cambridge Professor Mark de Rond's research further challenges the sacred cow of team harmony, showing that internal competition can actually improve team performance. The biggest benefit of focusing on "work" over "teamwork" is increased individual accountability, making it easier to identify weak links and prevent learned helplessness.
To create accountable collaboration, audit your automatic collaboration habits, looking for teams that exist merely for validation rather than purpose. Make teams temporary like The Avengers, assembling only when facing challenges no individual can tackle alone. Let underperformers experience consequences rather than enabling them-when high performers constantly rescue underperformers, they enable continued poor performance.
Stay aligned with organizational priorities, disbanding teams when missions change. General Stanley McChrystal's "plywood leadership" exemplifies this approach, building structures designed to be quickly reconfigured as needed. Own your results completely, taking responsibility for failures as well as successes. Sometimes leaders need to isolate themselves to accomplish meaningful work-even Jack Welch protected "looking out the window time" for deep thinking.
True autonomy requires disconnecting completely-not just physical isolation while remaining tethered to emails and instant messages. The best work often emerges during periods of genuine solitude, like a productive six-hour flight. Leaders should allow their teams occasional unplugged time to demonstrate trust and respect for their autonomy.
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When Creativity Becomes Narcissistic Rather Than Useful
We have a neurological bias toward novelty-new ideas trigger dopamine hits regardless of their quality. Harvard's Teresa Amabile defines creativity as producing "novel and useful ideas," but leaders often celebrate novelty alone.
Consider the story of Vivo Software, where their "Vivo Man" mascot disaster was compounded by an unexpected $10,000 character appearance fee they couldn't afford. Instead, their simplest idea-using Vivo's streaming technology to report on the trade show as "VVN"-proved most effective. By interviewing industry leaders and showing them how they looked online (a novelty at the time), they demonstrated the product's value, ultimately leading to an investment from Progressive Networks, which later acquired Vivo.
The lesson: narcissistic creativity (like Vivo Man) satisfies ego but rarely delivers business results, while useful creativity solves real problems. Sony exemplifies this trap-their engineers' pride prevented them from adopting market-friendly technologies, leading to their decline despite abundant creativity.
Experiments show we overestimate how much variety we'll enjoy (the "diversification bias")-like trick-or-treaters who choose different candies when selecting two at once but pick their favorite twice when choosing separately. This explains why companies like Sony create thousands of products while Apple's focused lineup fits on a kitchen table.
Leaders often create new things because reusing old ideas makes them feel lazy or unimaginative, turning creativity into a sacred cow. However, true useful creativity asks "What does the organization need?" rather than "What can I create?"
To combat narcissistic creativity, understand the source of your creative energy-pride, pressure, or boredom. New leaders often change things unnecessarily to make their mark. Others feel pressured to be creative for creativity's sake. After three years in the same role, boredom can trigger needless reinvention.
Rechannel your creative energy by transforming creative urges into reframing the problem rather than redesigning entire systems for minor issues. Repurpose on purpose-Ben Silbermann's Pinterest exemplifies successful repurposing by taking the familiar concept of a pin board and transforming it into something extraordinary yet intuitive.
Make remixes-even Picasso's revolutionary Cubism combined European portraiture with African tribal art rather than creating something entirely new. As filmmaker Kirby Ferguson argues in "Everything Is a Remix," creativity typically involves combining previously uncombined elements.
Create analogies-when Greg Carroll became VP of marketing at Furman University, he transformed his team by asking them to think of themselves as an ad agency. This simple analogy shifted their identity from mere "college relations" staff to creative professionals with expertise and purpose.
Sometimes innovation requires knowing when not to be creative. One CEO urged his marketing team to "pick a template and fill it out" rather than wasting energy creating multiple versions of marketing plans. Despite the popular advice to "think outside the box," there's value in executing brilliantly within established frameworks.
Finally, become a curator of ideas rather than constantly generating your own. Leaders who support others' ideas earn trust and create environments where innovation thrives.
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When Excellence Becomes Process Obsession Rather Than Outcome Focus
Excellence, when pursued obsessively, can backfire. Ella, a pharmaceutical marketing executive with impeccable credentials, was shocked to learn her leadership style created tension, not just intensity. Her boss helped her see that her relentless pursuit of excellence was damaging her team's morale.
Excellence is often weaponized in workplace arguments-"we need to protect our brand" or "our customers deserve better." But this obsession with perfection can kill innovation and waste energy. Leaders who demand excellence in every tiny detail lack the courage to prioritize what truly matters.
While Tom Peters still champions universal excellence, research from innovators like Clay Christensen shows that allowing for experimentation and failure leads to better outcomes. At one Big Global Tech Company, junior executives with perfect pedigrees couldn't make a recommendation about entering the Chinese market because they lacked complete data about libraries-their paralysis for perfection hurt their reputation and slowed progress.
Golf champion Bubba Watson never had formal lessons but won the Masters with an unorthodox swing that experts wouldn't teach. Similarly, Ed Catmull at Pixar demonstrates the balance between demanding excellence in final products while embracing messiness in the process. When Disney wanted to make a low-quality Toy Story 2 sequel, Pixar refused to compromise on quality, even at great personal sacrifice. Yet Pixar's creative process deliberately normalizes sharing unfinished, rough work daily. The key insight: lowering day-to-day standards enables achieving the highest standards in the end result.
To make your excellence meaningful, lower the stakes by removing priming that reminds people of group membership and focusing solely on the task at hand. Research on "stereotype threat" shows how performance anxiety can significantly impair results. Thomas Dee's study at Swarthmore found athletes who were reminded of their athletic identity before taking a GRE-style test performed 14% worse-equivalent to a full letter grade drop.
Ask dumb questions-expertise can become a curse when our need to appear smart prevents us from asking seemingly naive questions. Sixteen-year-old Katherine Bomkamp exemplifies this principle-after meeting amputees at Walter Reed Hospital suffering from phantom limb pain, she asked a "dumb" question: could a heating pad help? This led to her tenth-grade science fair project, the "Pain Free Socket," which embedded thermo-resistive wiring in prosthetic limbs to trick the brain.
Embrace the hacker mentality-Reid Hoffman, LinkedIn's founder, advises to "launch early enough that you're embarrassed by your 1.0 product release." Accept the mess of progress-as Stanford professor Baba Shiv notes, "If you build a polished prototype others will see flaws. If you build a rough prototype, they will see potential."
Start a meaningful journey with a meaningless map-Hungarian Nobel Prize-winner Albert Szent-Gyorgi told the story of lost Hungarian soldiers in the Alps who found their way using a map of the Pyrenees mountains-1,000 kilometers away. Organizational psychologist Karl Weick used this to illustrate that "if you're lost, any old map will do." A map provides a starting point that becomes secondary once activity begins.
Embrace "OK" as good enough to get started-leaders must encourage "OK" in themselves and others, recognizing that something imperfect but functional looks great compared to being stuck with nothing. Play around-Norman Bourlag, who "saved more human lives than anyone in history" through the Green Revolution, taught us to get out of the lab and into the field, even if it means sacrificing pristine scientific rigor.
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When Fairness Becomes Outcome Obsession Rather Than Process Focus
Fairness becomes a sacred cow when leaders obsess over equal outcomes rather than establishing fair processes. Consider April, a head nurse who makes a misguided attempt at fairness by denying her star performer Leah a training opportunity. The result? Leah leaves the team, and April loses her best employee while trying to appear fair to everyone.
Our desire for fairness is deeply biological. Neuroscience shows we literally feel others' pain in our brains, and our reward networks activate when witnessing fair treatment. Contrary to traditional economic theory, humans will sacrifice personal gain to ensure fairness-we'll spend our own resources to reward fairness or punish unfairness.
Ernst Fehr's "third-party punishment game" demonstrates how far people will go to enforce fairness. In this experiment, participants willingly sacrifice their own money simply to punish someone they perceive as unfair to others-even when this punishment doesn't help the victim. This spite-driven behavior appears consistently across cultures, ages, and genders, showing how our pursuit of fairness can ironically lead to self-destructive decisions.
To train your brain to focus on process fairness rather than outcome fairness, start with projection detection-we often assume others want what we want, leading to misguided attempts at fairness. The solution is a three-step process: know your own needs, learn others' actual needs, and recognize the differences between them.
Break the Golden Rule-Paul Zak's research reveals how oxytocin drives our empathy and moral behavior in a self-reinforcing cycle. When oxytocin surges, we become kinder and more cooperative, but this creates a biological reward for following the Golden Rule-assuming others want what we want. Carolyn's story illustrates this pitfall perfectly-she gave her employee Sharon the autonomy she herself craved, but Sharon experienced this as abandonment.
Embrace difference-sameness is fairness's second backfire. The university president who canceled a successful jazz festival to be "fair" to other departments ultimately damaged the entire institution. Similarly, the Ritz-Carlton's standardized approach loses to the Four Seasons' more personalized service that delights through difference.
Discriminate courageously-to overcome sameness, we must embrace differentiation like marketers do. Coke created Coke Zero specifically for men under 45 who wouldn't drink Diet Coke. In leadership, this requires courage and communication skills-explaining why one person gets sent to training twice or why one department receives more investment.
Play a bigger game-leaders waste enormous energy "settling scores." When marketing managers from Japan and emerging markets fight over resources, they're watching the wrong scoreboard. Instead of competing internally, they should unite against actual competitors.
Check up on others-research by Abbink shows that competition over scarce resources brings out nastiness in people-not just selfishness that helps oneself, but behavior specifically aimed at hurting others without personal gain. As a leader, minimize competitive environments around scarce resources like budgets or attention, as these trigger antisocial behaviors.
Check up on yourself-when we feel unfairly treated, we often rationalize unethical decisions. Don, a veteran medical device salesperson demoted after his company's acquisition, suffered increasingly unfair treatment until he eventually misused marketing funds to secure a sale-something he'd previously lectured others against. Recognize when you're justifying rule-bending because of unfair treatment.
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When Passion Becomes Obsessive Rather Than Harmonious
The chapter opens with Jake Breeden's personal story from business school, where his obsessive passion for securing job offers backfired. Despite having a different background than his MBA peers, he competed desperately for internships. His motivation shifted from supporting his family to proving his worth, as his insecurity became the driving force. During a marketing internship trip to New York, his desperation peaked when, after repeated rejections while his roommate succeeded, he fought over a TV remote control, breaking a lamp. This moment revealed how his obsessive approach was failing him.
Passion can supercharge performance, but it has a dark side. Robert Vallerand's research distinguishes between healthy harmonious passion and unhealthy obsessive passion. The difference lies in their source-harmonious passion comes from autonomous choice while obsessive passion stems from contingent self-worth.
Blanka Rip's research with dancers proved obsessive passion causes physical harm-obsessively passionate dancers suffered more chronic injuries because they refused to rest or seek help when injured, letting pride override pain. Passion that comes from feeling you must rather than wanting to ultimately damages both performance and wellbeing.
Harmonious passion creates sustainable excellence by balancing multiple interests. Yo-Yo Ma exemplifies this approach-despite starting cello at age four, he chose a liberal arts education over specialized music training, allowing him to become a boundary-crossing artist who collaborates across genres. Similarly, tennis champion Serena Williams maintains her nail technician certification and fashion interests alongside her athletic career. Critics mistake her harmonious approach for lack of dedication, yet she's achieved unparalleled success and career longevity.
To cultivate harmonious passion, find your "shard of glass"-the painful truth you've buried that drives your compulsive behavior. Ask yourself: What are you trying to prove? To whom? And why? This self-examination can reveal the unhealthy source of your obsessions.
Lead from behind-at the Armstrong Agency, CEO Mike Armstrong began every Monday meeting with an emotional, high-energy performance meant to inspire his staff. While initially captivating, his relentless cheerleading eventually burned out employees, leading to high turnover. As Nelson Mandela advised: "Put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership."
Stop proving yourself right-Grace Turner's story illustrates how passion can become destructive stubbornness. After excelling as a Channel Partner Manager with a relationship-focused approach, she took an enterprise sales role to prove her methods would work there too. Despite evidence her approach wasn't succeeding in sales, she refused to adapt, ultimately losing her job.
Start proving yourself wrong-when confronted with evidence contradicting deeply-held beliefs, people often become more fervent advocates rather than reconsidering their position. Leon Festinger's study of Dorothy Martin's doomsday cult demonstrated this cognitive dissonance-when the predicted apocalypse didn't occur, Martin became more evangelical rather than admitting error.
Stay healthy with the buddy system-obsessive passion can be physically dangerous. A Toyota engineer died from overwork (karoshi) while preparing for a major auto show, demonstrating how obsession crowds out everything else in life. Leaders should enlist trusted colleagues to provide perspective during high-pressure situations.
Look outside yourself-Oliver Segovia's popular HBR blog post contrasts two women: one who followed her inner passion to teach but became unhappy, and Umaimah Mendhro, who grew up in rural Pakistan and focused on helping others. Mendhro founded dreamfly to build schools in underserved communities while also working at Microsoft, finding fulfillment in balancing for-profit work with social causes.
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When Preparation Becomes Backstage Rather Than Onstage
Ajay, an investment bank analyst known for his structured thinking and elegant financial models, was rewarded with an important assignment to lead a pitch to a tech CEO considering an acquisition. Enthusiastic about the challenging valuation problem, Ajay built complex models backed by rigorous research and spent countless hours preparing to defend his analysis. However, when the CEO asked unexpected questions about culture and talent acquisition rather than financial models, Ajay froze, unable to engage in genuine conversation. The disappointed CEO left, and Ajay lost the opportunity, despite his extensive preparation.
While preparation is essential for success, certain approaches can stunt growth and limit potential. Multiple forces corrupt our mental models of preparation-from educational conditioning that equates learning with memorization to sociological factors. Erving Goffman's metaphor of life as a stage reveals that we're always "onstage" performing, yet we often imagine ourselves "backstage" preparing for future events.
Our schooling conditions us to overprepare through exhaustive memorization, academic specialization, and A+ obsession. Even the Scout motto "Be Prepared" is misinterpreted as backstage study rather than holistic readiness. Meanwhile, modern business culture increasingly values rapid iteration over perfection, challenging our impulse to fully polish everything before release.
Effective preparation means practicing as if the show has already started-there is no backstage. Jack Agnew, a charismatic PR professional who seemed naturally gifted at client pitches, actually practiced his presentations aloud with full energy and swagger. Improv comedy offers valuable lessons for business leaders about being present and responsive. William Hall of BATS Improv emphasizes that judgment pulls us out of the present moment, while the "yes, and" principle keeps us engaged and building on others' contributions.
To shift from wasteful backstage preparation to performance-enhancing onstage preparation, troubleshoot your preparation style-examine your mental model for preparation and whether it's based on fundamentally different situations. Perfect practice makes perfect-slow down difficult tasks to master them with perfect technique before speeding up.
Learn by doing-interactive learning dramatically outperforms passive learning. A 1999 JAMA study revealed that didactic continuing medical education methods (lectures, presentations) produced no measurable improvement in physician performance, while interactive methods (workshops, small-group work) significantly improved outcomes.
Hold moot court-simulated performance environments dramatically improve preparation. James, a tax attorney, holds four to five mock trials before each case, inviting colleagues and experts to critique his arguments. This process transforms his approach from first to last simulation, allowing him to test specific arguments, prepare for questioning, and gain comfortable familiarity with his material.
Pretotype-IBM's legendary voice recognition test demonstrates the power of "pretotyping"-testing concepts before investing in full development. Rather than building expensive voice recognition technology in 1970, IBM simulated it by having a hidden typist transcribe users' dictation. This revealed unexpected problems: sore throats, noise issues, and privacy concerns.
Practice with intensity-Adam Nelson, an unlikely shot put champion at just six feet tall, succeeds through preparation intensity. Instead of conserving energy, he simulates competition conditions during practice: "When preparing for a high stress, unique situation, you want to simulate as many possible variations of the scenario as you can."
Be more human-Nick Morgan, CEO of Public Words, discovered that traditional public speaking instruction focusing on mechanics creates an imperceptible but real lag between thought and action that audiences perceive as inauthentic. Instead of focusing on hand positions and eye contact, Morgan recommends starting with the emotion you want to convey and genuinely feeling it yourself.
Apprentice each other-while traditional apprenticeship involves patient learning from a single master, modern expertise is more distributed. Today's efficient learning comes through open, crowd-sourced apprenticeship rather than the slow, deliberate path of gathering expertise from a single master.
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Recognizing Your Own Sacred Cows
Before you ever did anything, you sensed something. From your earliest moments, you've constructed meaning from what you perceive. As you matured, you made fundamental choices about how to view the world: Is hard work or luck more important? Is life fair? Is standing out better than fitting in? These perceptual "glasses" alter everything you see, yet most people remain unaware they're wearing them.
As David Foster Wallace noted in his famous Kenyon College commencement address, like fish unaware of water, we often fail to recognize our own default settings. The more you espouse unquestioned virtues, the harder it becomes to see when they've become sacred cows.
An Air Force executive shared a story illustrating how our proudest virtues often hide the greatest dangers. He described a beloved colonel who personally greeted every new airman arriving at the base. When replaced by a new commanding officer who used video recordings instead of personal greetings, troops were disappointed. Yet the new C.O. explained, "I'm giving the sergeants a little bit of sunshine. I get enough as it is." By empowering middle managers rather than cultivating a cult of personality, the new C.O. created a stronger organization, though he never achieved his predecessor's popularity. The beloved colonel's virtuous humility had actually undermined his middle managers' authority-an unintended consequence he never recognized.
You're likely proud of your belief system, but must be careful of the unintended consequences when virtues remain unexamined. Find your biggest sacred cow-it's the water you swim in daily without awareness. Your core beliefs and the advice you frequently give often hide sacred cows holding you back. Once you start looking for them, you'll see them everywhere-not because the world has changed, but because your perception has.
