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    When Breakups, Meth, and Sexual Identity Collide

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    Exploring how major life transitions and substance use can unlock hidden aspects of sexuality and identity, challenging common narratives about drugs in queer communities.

    When Breakups, Meth, and Sexual Identity Collide

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    The attraction to substances might not be about seeking escape or even pleasure—it might be about seeking a sense of authentic self-expression and community belonging during a period of emotional upheaval.

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