Breaking the Bond: Reclaiming Power After Toxic Love
Learn to navigate the biological addiction of trauma bonds and reclaim your strength, even when shared spaces and lingering messages make moving on feel impossible.
Best quote from Breaking the Bond: Reclaiming Power After Toxic Love
You’re not just missing a person; you’re craving the neurochemical relief from the withdrawal he caused. Once you understand that this is biology and not a character flaw, you can move from asking 'Why wasn't I enough?' to 'How dare he treat someone as valuable as me as an option?'
This audio lesson was created by a BeFreed community member
advice for healing from a trauma bond, a three-year, toxic relationship that begin as an affair and in a divorce and culminated with him still not choosing me after the divorce dating someone else . We have very close mutual friends and do the same martial arts sport and lift weights together so it’s difficult for me to cut him out of my life completely. He keeps lingering sending me inappropriate messages calling me flirting with me. I I need to feel powerful.
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