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The Introvert's Guide to Small Talk: 5 Steps to Painless Conversations

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Discover how your brain is wired for connection, not performance. Drawing from Susan Cain's groundbreaking research, Matthias Mehl's social studies, and Harvard's speed-dating insights, this episode transforms small talk from dreaded obligation to manageable skill with a practical 30-day plan.

The Introvert's Guide to Small Talk: 5 Steps to Painless Conversations
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Acute social isolation evokes midbrain craving responses similar to hunger
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8580014/
The Liking Gap in Conversations: Do People Like Us More Than We Think?
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797618783714
Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love
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https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/science-of-social-bonding-in-family-friendship-and-romantic-love
We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/we-need-to-talk-by-celeste-headlee
Nooks: Social Spaces to Lower Hesitations in Interacting with New People at Work
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https://arxiv.org/abs/2302.02223
The neuromodulator of exploration: A unifying theory of the role of dopamine in personality
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https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/human-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2013.00762/full
How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/how-to-be-yourself-by-ellen-hendriksen
Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/captivate-by-vanessa-van-edwards
The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-charisma-myth-by-olivia-fox-cabane
Social Interactions and Well-Being: The Surprising Power of Weak Ties
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24769739/
Replication Study Shows No Evidence That Small Talk Harms Well-Being
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https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/small-talk-well-being.html
The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-like-switch-by-jack-schafer
Talking with strangers is surprisingly informative
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https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.2206992119
The Chameleon Effect: The Perception-Behavior Link and Social Interaction
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10402679/
10 ways to have a better conversation
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https://www.ted.com/talks/celeste_headlee_10_ways_to_have_a_better_conversation
Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/just-listen-by-mark-goulston
How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/how-to-talk-to-anyone-by-leil-lowndes
U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy: Efforts & Challenges in Promoting Public Health (segments on loneliness & connection)
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https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/us-surgeon-general-dr-vivek-murthy-efforts-challenges-in-promoting-public-health
The power of introverts
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https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts
#799 — The Science of Building Genuine Friendships
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https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-modern-wisdom-30936734/episode/799-david-robson-the-187398943/
How to speak so that people want to listen
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https://www.ted.com/talks/julian_treasure_how_to_speak_so_that_people_want_to_listen
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
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https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8520610-quiet
Nonverbal Overload: A Theoretical Argument for the Causes of Zoom Fatigue
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https://vhil.stanford.edu/publications/social-interaction/nonverbal-overload-theoretical-argument-causes-zoom-fatigue
Mistakenly Seeking Solitude
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https://colab.ws/articles/10.1037%2Fa0037323
Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/cues-by-vanessa-van-edwards
It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question‑Asking Increases Liking
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http://nrs.harvard.edu/urn-3:HUL.InstRepos:35647952
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