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Love's Laboratory: How Science Unlocks Lasting Romantic Relationships

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What really makes relationships thrive? This episode distills cutting-edge research from the Gottmans' famous 'Love Lab' studies and Esther Perel's work on desire into practical strategies. Discover why a 5:1 positivity ratio matters more than compatibility and how small daily behaviors create relationship wealth.

Love's Laboratory: How Science Unlocks Lasting Romantic Relationships
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Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0146167297234003
Social Psychological and Personality Science
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550615616462
Mating in Captivity
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/mating-in-captivity-by-esther-perel
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21767032/
Esther Perel — TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved
The Science of Happily Ever After
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https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18114075-the-science-of-happily-ever-after
The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos
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https://podcastaddict.com/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/episode/171562084
Huberman Lab
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https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-of-love-desire-and-attachment
Amy Webb — TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_webb_how_i_hacked_online_dating
The Gottman Institute
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https://www.gottman.com/blog/an-introduction-to-emotional-bids-and-trust/
Eight Dates
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/eight-dates-by-john-gottman
Attached
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/attached-by-amir-levine
The Love Prescription
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-love-prescription-by-john-gottman
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
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https://gimletmedia.com/shows/where-should-we-begin/xjhoj5j
Modern Wisdom
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https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-modern-wisdom-30936734/episode/838-dr-paul-eastwick--215995605/
arXiv
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https://arxiv.org/abs/1808.04840
The All-or-Nothing Marriage
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https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34272559-the-all-or-nothing-marriage
UW News
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https://www.washington.edu/news/2004/02/12/math-and-marriage-five-to-one-ratio-predicts-who-will-stay-married/
Love Sense
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/love-sense-by-susan-m-johnson
PNAS
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https://www.pnas.org/doi/abs/10.1073/pnas.1917036117
Helen Fisher — TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in_love
Why We Love
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/why-we-love-by-helen-fisher
The Gottman Institute
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https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-stonewalling/
Cornell Chronicle
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https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2016/08/want-more-sex-split-household-chores
Wired for Love
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/wired-for-love-by-stan-tatkin
Journal of Evidence-Based Social Work
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https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/23761407.2018.1563013
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15301629/
Brené Brown — TEDx Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability
Nonviolent Communication
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https://www.befreed.ai/list/best-persuasion-books
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