Why do relationships that once felt like oxygen suddenly suffocate? Drawing from Helen Fisher's neuroscience, Esther Perel's therapy insights, and the Gottmans' research, this episode reveals the paradoxical biology of attraction versus attachment and offers practical strategies to protect love in a digital age.

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Nia: Welcome to the BeFreed Podcast, where we distill the world's best sources into personalized insights you can actually finish. I'm Nia.
Jackson: And I'm Jackson. Today we're diving into a topic that touches almost everyone at some point: "How Love Dies: The Psychology of Cheating and Attraction."
Nia: You know, it's fascinating how a relationship that once felt like oxygen can suddenly feel like suffocation. From micro-cheating on our phones to full-blown affairs, we're facing pressures our grandparents couldn't imagine.
Jackson: Exactly. We'll be connecting dots across neuroscience, evolutionary psychology, and attachment theory-drawing on experts like Esther Perel, Helen Fisher, and the Gottmans. Not to moralize, but to understand the machinery so we can build something better.