What is
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way Bible Study Guide about?
This six-session guide by Lysa TerKeurst helps readers navigate life’s disappointments through biblical wisdom, offering practical steps to process pain and rebuild trust in God. It combines personal stories, Scripture analysis, and reflection questions to address unmet expectations, relational struggles, and spiritual doubts. Key themes include reconciling God’s promises with suffering and finding hope between "Eden and eternity".
Who should read
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way Bible Study Guide?
Christians grappling with unmet expectations, divorce, illness, or betrayal will find this guide transformative. Small groups and individuals seeking structured biblical frameworks for processing grief or rebuilding faith will benefit most. TerKeurst’s vulnerable storytelling resonates with those navigating midlife crises, marital strain, or existential doubt.
Is
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way Bible Study Guide worth reading?
Yes—readers praise its actionable steps for reframing pain through Scripture, with 36 weeks on Publishers Weekly’s bestseller list. Critics note occasional repetitiveness, but most call it "life-giving" for its balance of theological depth and relatable application.
What are the four steps of restoration in
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way?
TerKeurst outlines:
- Acknowledge the hurt (name disappointments honestly).
- Process with God (prayerful lament).
- Rebuild trust (redefine expectations biblically).
- Move forward (embrace God’s redemptive purpose).
These steps help readers transition from resentment to hopeful surrender.
How does
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way address unanswered prayers?
TerKeurst argues unmet requests often reveal God’s protective plans, using Joseph’s Bible story to reframe delays as divine redirection. She encourages journaling prayers and identifying "divine no’s" that prevent harmful outcomes.
What quotes from
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way are most impactful?
- “Disappointment is a warning light that something needs attention.”
- “Trusting God is not about ignoring pain—it’s about attending to it with Him.”
These lines emphasize proactive faith amid suffering.
How does
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way compare to Lysa TerKeurst’s
Forgiving What You Can’t Forget?
While both address healing, Forgiving focuses on reconciliation tactics, whereas It’s Not Supposed examines foundational trust in God’s character during crises. The study guide adds structured group discussion prompts absent in her earlier works.
What criticisms exist about
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way Bible Study Guide?
Some reviewers note repetitive anecdotes and an overemphasis on personal stories versus theological exploration. However, most applaud its accessibility for those new to biblical study.
TerKeurst urges small groups to share struggles openly, citing Ecclesiastes 4:9–10. The guide includes partner exercises to practice empathy and accountability, framing church support as essential for lasting healing.
Why is
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way relevant in 2025?
Post-pandemic anxiety and societal instability make its themes of unpredictable suffering timely. Updated video sessions address modern stressors like AI-driven job loss and digital isolation, aligning ancient wisdom with contemporary crises.
How does
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way handle doubts about God’s goodness?
TerKeurst validates skepticism using David’s Psalms, then contrasts human-limited perspectives with God’s eternal sovereignty. Case studies show how prolonged waiting seasons often precede purposeful breakthroughs.
What supplemental resources enhance this study guide?
Pair with the companion book for deeper reflection, the Embraced devotional (2019 ECPA Book of the Year), and TerKeurst’s She Speaks Conference videos for speaker training.