
Tired of dating advice blaming you for being single? Sara Eckel's 4.8-star rated manifesto dismantles 27 myths with compassion and research-backed wisdom. Translated into seven languages, this New York Times columnist's work liberates readers from self-doubt with one radical premise: It's not you.
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"What's wrong with you?" The question hits like a punch to the gut when you're single longer than society deems acceptable. It's a question that assumes singleness must be the result of some hidden defect-a belief so pervasive that even the most confident among us begin to wonder if there's truth to it. This toxic assumption forms the foundation of our cultural understanding of prolonged singlehood, especially for women. But what if there's nothing wrong with you at all? The self-improvement industrial complex has convinced singles they must fix themselves before finding love. We're told to build confidence, practice self-love, develop hobbies, and heal childhood wounds-as if romantic partnership were a reward for completing personal development. Meanwhile, we watch friends with their own baggage fall effortlessly into relationships without a single yoga class or therapy session. Research from relationship expert John Gottman reveals that everyday neuroses don't prevent marriage success. The key isn't having a perfectly balanced personality but finding someone with whom you mesh well. What if your only "issue" is believing you have issues? What if you're simply a normal, flawed human who hasn't yet met your match?