Karl Pillemer
Born: October 15, 1954 – Cleveland, Ohio, United States
Karl Pillemer is a gerontologist and family sociologist at Cornell whose work examines aging, intergenerational relationships, caregiving, and family estrangement. ((https://psychology.cornell.edu/karl-pillemer)) He is best known for 30 Lessons for Living, 30 Lessons for Loving, and Fault Lines. ((https://www.human.cornell.edu/spotlights/pillemer-receives-pollack-award?utm_source=openai)) A public-facing scholar, he has published more than 200 scholarly works and helped translate aging research into practice. ((https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2025/06/faculty-staff-win-2025-suny-chancellors-awards-excellence))
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Community Voices
"For five years, Karl Pillemer sat down with more than 1,000 older Americans—most of them between the ages of 70 and 100—to talk about lessons for living well"
— The Daily Beast ((
"Karl Pillemer has done an incredible job of bringing together the collective wisdom of hundreds of Americans"
— Matthew Kelly ((
"In this thoughtful, compassionate book Karl Pillemer shows that it need not be permanent and his perceptive, gentle guidance lights the way to reconciliation"
— Gabor Maté ((
"Karl Pillemer, a gifted gerontologist, has produced a volume that reflects great wisdom"
— Kathleen McCartney ((
"Thank you Karl Pillemer for taking the time to collect such a valuable trove of wisdom"
— Hal Urban ((
"With Fault Lines, Karl Pillemer courageously rappels into the deep social crevice created by these devastating rifts"
— Amy Dickinson ((
"Karl Pillemer presents the wisdom of the ultimate experts in relationships"
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"But in this wise and moving book, Karl Pillemer combines academic rigor and practical advice to show us how to move toward reconciliation"
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