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Alexandra H. Solomon

Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical psychologist and relationship expert whose work focuses on intimacy, relational self-awareness, sexuality, and committed partnership. She is the author of Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and Love Every Day, translating psychological research and therapeutic practice into accessible guidance on modern relationships.

Biography & Author's Journey

Alexandra H. Solomon is an American clinical psychologist, educator, and author whose work sits at the intersection of relationship science, therapy, and public education. Her academic foundation joined psychology and women’s studies at the University of Michigan, where she earned her bachelor’s degree in 1995, before she completed an MA and PhD in counseling psychology at Northwestern University, along with a graduate certificate in gender studies, in 2001. That blend of scholarship and clinical training helped define the core concern of her career: how people learn patterns of love, conflict, desire, repair, and self-understanding within intimate relationships. ((https://sesp.northwestern.edu/people/faculty/alexandra-solomon.html))

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In your most important relationships, you are put face to face with vital questions about who you are, and what you want
-About Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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We come to know ourselves through our relationships
-Tending to Your Inner Child
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That’s because long-term love is about choosing someone who will be by your side when the stuff hits the fan
-The #1 Quality to Look for in a Romantic Partner
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We have to persist anyway in a space of not knowing
-I Love Them, But I'm Not in Love With Them
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Each of us deserves an experience of erotic confidence that is authentic rather than performative
-Want to Feel More Confident in the Bedroom? Start with This
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A situationship is not a forever thing, neither by design, nor by desire
-Is Your Situationship Working?
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Neutrality is not a requirement of healing because love does not leave us where it finds us
-How to Get Closure After a Breakup
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Remember that you are not your profile
-12 Strategies for Swiping with Relational Self-Awareness
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The only person you have control over is yourself
-Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict
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Because the self is relational, we are changed by the experience of loving and being loved
-I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex: Part I

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The Psychology of Deep Connection
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The Psychology of Deep Connection

This course is essential for anyone looking to move beyond surface-level interactions and understand the science of intimacy. It is particularly beneficial for individuals seeking to navigate relationship transitions or improve their interpersonal communication skills.

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Erotic Intelligence in Long-Term Love
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Erotic Intelligence in Long-Term Love

Long-term relationships often struggle to maintain passion amidst the demands of domestic life. This plan is essential for couples and individuals looking to reconcile security with adventure, offering a sophisticated roadmap for sustaining desire and healing from relational crises.

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Psychology for Real Life
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Psychology for Real Life

This plan is essential for anyone looking to improve their emotional intelligence and interpersonal effectiveness. It is designed for professionals and individuals seeking to navigate complex social dynamics while maintaining their mental well-being.

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Connect Deeply and Speak Bravely
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Connect Deeply and Speak Bravely

This learning plan is essential for anyone struggling with social anxiety or professional conflict. It provides a practical roadmap for individuals looking to balance emotional regulation with assertive communication in their personal and work lives.

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Sensual Wellness 101: How to Be Sexy and Confident
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Sensual Wellness 101: How to Be Sexy and Confident

The text outlines a program on sensual wellness, focusing on integrating body awareness, emotional safety, and daily rituals to enhance confidence, pleasure, and authentic communication.

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The Art of Radical Emotional Autonomy
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The Art of Radical Emotional Autonomy

This learning plan is essential for high-performers and individuals in demanding environments who feel drained by external expectations. It provides the psychological tools needed to reclaim personal agency and build an unshakeable inner foundation.

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The Somatic Path to Awakening
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The Somatic Path to Awakening

This plan is essential for practitioners who feel a disconnect between their spiritual insights and their lived emotional experiences. It is specifically designed for those seeking to ground their personal growth in somatic safety and authentic relational boundaries.

1 h 30 m3 Sections
Social Navigation and Behavioral Mastery
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Social Navigation and Behavioral Mastery

In an increasingly complex social landscape, the ability to decode hidden dynamics is a critical competitive advantage. This plan is designed for leaders and professionals who need to master emotional intelligence, body language, and high-stakes negotiation to influence outcomes effectively.

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"Alexandra H. Solomon wisely implores readers to turn off the noise, tune into our authentic selves, and cultivate a deeper sense of relational self-awareness"

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"Alexandra H. Solomon's Loving Bravely is a terrific guidebook for anyone contemplating or engaged in an intimate relationship"

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"Alexandra H. Solomon has written the best book ever about creating, developing, and nurturing relationships"

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"Alexandra H. Solomon has written a clear-eyed, practical guidebook on nothing less than how to love"

Terry Real

"Alexandra Solomon's work is mandatory for anyone who desires a road map to improve their relationships"

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