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    Discover why we consistently underestimate how positively others view us after conversations, the psychology behind this social misjudgment, and practical tools to overcome this self-critical tendency.

    The Liking Gap: You're More Likable Than You Think

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    The liking gap is the counterintuitive finding that people systematically underestimate how much others like them after conversations. We are essentially our own harshest critics, dissecting every word choice while the other person is simply enjoying a genuine human connection.

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