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    Desire Needs Space to Thrive

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    1 de jan. de 2026
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    Exploring Esther Perel's provocative thesis that the security we create in relationships might be undermining our passion, and how couples can reconcile their needs for both intimacy and excitement.

    Desire Needs Space to Thrive

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    Desire needs uncertainty to thrive, but we've built our relationships around eliminating uncertainty. The more we merge our identities, the more desire tends to fade.

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