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    It’s Not You
    Sara Eckel
    4.09 (2185 Reviews)
    RelationshipSelf-growthPsychologyInspiration
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    Tired of dating advice blaming you for being single? Sara Eckel's 4.8-star rated manifesto dismantles 27 myths with compassion and research-backed wisdom. Translated into seven languages, this New York Times columnist's work liberates readers from self-doubt with one radical premise: It's not you.

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