Small Wins, Big Love: Rebuilding Your Relationship

32 min

Feb 27, 2026

Discover how micro-connections and a shift from blame to partnership can heal your marriage. Learn science-backed strategies to navigate conflict and rebuild trust through small, intentional daily actions.

Best quote from Small Wins, Big Love: Rebuilding Your Relationship

It’s not about the jewelry; it’s about how you respond when she asks if we need more milk. Couples who stayed together turned toward each other’s small bids for connection 86% of the time, while those who split only did it 33% of the time.

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Fostering connection with my wife in a strained relationship

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Lena

Miles

Knowledge sources

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

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108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

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@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

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Small Wins, Big Love: Rebuilding Your Relationship

32 min

Feb 27, 2026

Relationships Psychology Communication

Best quote from Small Wins, Big Love: Rebuilding Your Relationship

It’s not about the jewelry; it’s about how you respond when she asks if we need more milk. Couples who stayed together turned toward each other’s small bids for connection 86% of the time, while those who split only did it 33% of the time.

Part of a Learning Plan

LEARNING PLAN

Heal marriage and ensure accountability.

5 h 53 m•4 Episodes

Key Takeaways

The Power of Micro-Connections

0:00

0:14

0:32

0:44

The Blueprint of Attachment and the Hidden Dance

0:55

1:29

2:08

0:32

3:07

3:31

4:01

4:28

5:00

5:26

The Four Horsemen and the Art of the Gentle Startup

5:55

0:32

6:53

7:21

7:48

8:16

8:45

9:07

9:42

10:10

The Geography of the Heart and Love Maps

10:37

11:07

11:30

11:53

12:19

12:45

13:10

13:35

13:55

14:21

Navigating the Storm of Betrayal and Broken Trust

14:48

15:17

15:46

8:16

16:35

17:09

17:31

17:56

18:17

18:40

The Science of Solution-Focused Thinking

19:08

19:33

19:59

20:19

20:40

21:02

21:21

21:44

22:05

0:32

When One Partner is Struggling Alone

22:51

23:15

23:39

23:58

24:21

24:43

25:05

25:27

25:50

26:14

The Practical Playbook for Reconnection

26:40

27:02

27:23

27:40

27:58

28:15

28:34

28:53

25:05

0:32

30:05

A Final Reflection on Choice and Connection

30:28

30:47

8:16

31:31

31:52

32:16

32:29

32:41

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From Columbia University alumni built in San Francisco

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"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

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"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

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"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

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"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

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"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

From Columbia University alumni built in San Francisco

BeFreed Brings Together A Global Community Of 1,000,000 Curious Minds

See more on how BeFreed is discussed across the web

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

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"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

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@Jaded_Falcon

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"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

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