Hard Choices and the Identity Gap: Ruth Chang on Decision-Making
Explore why hard choices feel impossible and how philosopher Ruth Chang’s concept of options being 'on a par' helps bridge the identity gap in decision-making.
Best quote from Hard Choices and the Identity Gap: Ruth Chang on Decision-Making
Making a hard decision isn't just about picking a path—it’s about choosing who you want to be. We aren't discovering a pre-existing 'best' choice; we’re creating its value through our commitment.
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Making hard decisions
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According to philosopher Ruth Chang, options are 'on a par' when they are in the same league of goodness but remain incomparable. This means they are not equal like identical items, but rather good in different, non-overlapping ways. When you face a hard choice where options are on a par, no amount of analytical data or spreadsheets will reveal a logical winner because you have reached the limit of what pure reason can provide.
Hard choices often feel like they are threatening our very identity because they involve incomparable paths that define who we are. When we are stuck between two significant life decisions, such as moving or changing jobs, the difficulty isn't a lack of information. Instead, the 'identity gap' arises because these choices require us to move beyond logic and decide which version of ourselves we want to become through the path we select.
Ruth Chang’s insights suggest that being stuck is often a result of options being on a par rather than a failure to do enough research. Realizing that two paths are incomparable can be a relief, as it stops the cycle of analytical grinding. Instead of looking for more data to produce a winner, you can recognize that reason has done its job, allowing you to address the choice as a reflection of your personal identity.
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