Beyond FOBO: Deciding Between Two Good Things
Stop waiting for a neon sign and start moving. Learn how to overcome decision paralysis and discern God’s will when choosing between two great opportunities.
Best quote from Beyond FOBO: Deciding Between Two Good Things
God’s will isn't a hidden treasure map; it’s actually much more about who we are becoming than which door we walk through.
This audio lesson was created by a BeFreed community member
Having two good choices/two opportunities and having to pick one. How the Bible defines healthy decision making and how to hear the voice of God/be attentive to the Holy Spirit to make the best decision when it feels like both are good (in the context of selecting the right church, relationship, career, etc.)
Frequently Asked Questions
The "revealed will" refers to the clear instructions God has provided in Scripture, such as the command to love your neighbor or act with integrity. The "secret" or "sovereign" will involves how God is working out the specific details of history and the future. The script suggests that we often experience "analysis paralysis" because we try to pry into the secret details of the future instead of focusing on practicing the moral principles God has already made clear.
An "open door" in a biblical sense is simply a visible opportunity to do good or advance a mission, rather than a mystical command that must be followed. A "closed door" is a legitimate lack of opportunity, such as a job rejection. However, the script warns against interpreting every small setback—like a website crash or traffic—as a sign from God. We should look for alignment with our gifts and the needs of others rather than assuming the easiest path is always the one God intended.
Not necessarily. The script explains that if you are "delighting in the Lord" through prayer and Scripture, your desires often recalibrate to align with His. These "holy desires" are a primary way the Holy Spirit leads. When choosing between two morally good options, it is appropriate to ask which one matches your unique personality, gifts, and passions, as God often guides us through the "bent" of our own hearts.
Seeking counsel is an act of humility that acknowledges we all have blind spots where our fears or selfish desires might cloud our judgment. A "multitude of counselors" provides different angles on a situation to ensure we aren't "rigging" the advice to get the answer we want. The script emphasizes that we should seek "Bible-saturated" people who know our personal history and can provide objective wisdom to help us make a well-informed executive decision.
It is important to distinguish between "Spiritual Desolation" (feeling distant from God) and "Human Anxiety." Making a major life change naturally involves risk, which can produce jangled nerves or fear. Spiritual peace can coexist with this emotional discomfort. The script encourages listeners to "trust God and get going," noting that God can use even our mistakes or "unwise" turns for our good, and that we should not let the "fear of better options" keep us from being fully present in the path we have chosen.
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