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    Discover why defensiveness is a normal brain response and learn practical strategies to regulate your emotions when receiving criticism, transforming feedback from a perceived attack into an opportunity for growth.

    Taming Your Defensive Reflex

    Taming Your Defensive Reflex 베스트 인용

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    Feeling defensive is largely involuntary—it's a set of emotions like anger, anxiety, or shame that just happens. What we can control is how we respond to those feelings.

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    I have a tendency to react in a defensive way when I get a bad mark, or receive any feedback or critisicm. I tend to say and do things that almost proves myself wrong and dig in. I'd like help with regulating my emotional reactions so I can reply or take in the information without feeling like I need to prove them right or wrong.

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