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    Discover how to respond non-defensively when your partner shares feelings about your actions, even when you disagree with their interpretation. Learn practical tools to bridge the gap between intention and impact.

    Breaking the Defensiveness Cycle

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    When we respond defensively, we actually prove to our partner that they can't come to us with their feelings safely; we're essentially training them not to be vulnerable with us.

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