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    How to avoid falling in love with a jerk
    John Van Epp
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    In "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk," relationship expert John Van Epp reveals the psychology behind toxic attraction. With 4.16/5 stars from 1,735 readers, this controversial guide challenges conventional dating wisdom. College professors teach it - yet some call it misogynistic. Will you trust your heart?

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