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Red Flags in Dating: When to Run, Not Walk Away

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Discover the science of toxic relationship patterns from Dr. John Gottman's Love Lab research and Helen Fisher's neuroscience studies. Learn to identify contempt, gaslighting, love bombing, and boundary violations before they escalate, while developing practical tests for compatibility that go beyond chemistry.

Red Flags in Dating: When to Run, Not Walk Away
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Huberman Lab
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https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-of-love-desire-and-attachment
FBI IC3 (press coverage of 2024 report)
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https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-cybercrime-costs-rose-least-16-billion-2024-2025-04-23/
TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brown%20
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (1992)
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/053901801040001005
TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship
The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life
link
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/173047/the-gaslight-effect-by-dr-robin-stern/
Personality and Individual Differences (2009)
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1002/per.698
American Sociological Review (2019)
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https://colab.ws/articles/10.1177%2F0003122419874843
Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma (2017)
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO
Modern Wisdom
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https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-modern-wisdom-30936734/episode/986-esther-perel-how-291022777/
Family Process (2002)
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https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2002.40102000083.x
FBI
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https://www.fbi.gov/contact-us/field-offices/jacksonville/news/beware-of-scammers-looking-for-more-than-love-this-valentines-day
Personality and Individual Differences (2023)
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https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886923003045
European Journal of Social Psychology (2012)
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https://ouci.dntb.gov.ua/en/works/7nJaPqy7/
BMC Psychology (2014)
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https://bmcpsychology.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40359-014-0040-5
Journal of Family Psychology (1999)
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10740681/
Modern Wisdom
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https://www.audible.com/podcast/457-Logan-Ury-Hinges-Relationship-Scientist-Gives-Dating-Advice/B09XDKJC13
TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness
CDC
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https://www.cdc.gov/intimate-partner-violence/about/index.html
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
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https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-on-purpose-with-jay-shett-30589432/episode/dr-ramani-2-signs-you-are-156038375/
The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness
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https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Good-Life/Robert-Waldinger/9781982166694
UK Home Office Statutory Guidance
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https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/controlling-or-coercive-behaviour-statutory-guidance-framework
TED Speaker Page
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https://www.ted.com/speakers/helen_fisher
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/attached-by-amir-levine
Gottman Institute
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https://www.gottman.com/blog/this-one-thing-is-the-biggest-predictor-of-divorce/
TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved
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What are the warning signs I should look for in an unhealthy relationship?

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