What is *Likeable Badass* by Alison Fragale about?

*Likeable Badass* provides evidence-based strategies for women to balance warmth and competence in the workplace. Behavioral scientist Alison Fragale explores how perceptions of **status** (others’ respect) — not just job titles or paychecks — determine career success. The book combines psychology research with actionable tactics for negotiation, self-promotion, and navigating office politics while maintaining peer relationships.

Who should read *Likeable Badass*?

This book is ideal for career-driven women, allies advocating for gender equity, and anyone navigating workplace dynamics. Early-career professionals gain tools to build influence, while executives learn to address systemic bias. Its blend of behavioral science and relatable stories also appeals to readers interested in psychology-backed self-improvement.

Is *Likeable Badass* worth reading?

Yes — the book delivers rigorous research (cited from top journals) with humor and practicality. Readers praise its **"deeply practical, science-backed"** frameworks for overcoming gender bias, earning credit for achievements, and mastering office politics. Over 68% of Amazon reviewers rate it 5 stars, highlighting actionable advice for salary negotiations and leadership.

What does "likeable badass" mean in the book?

The term describes someone perceived as **both warm** (collaborative, trustworthy) **and assertive** (confident, decisive). Fragale argues women must cultivate these dual traits to gain status, since society often penalizes women for displaying traditionally "masculine" leadership traits alone. Case studies show how this balance leads to promotions and stronger team loyalty.

How does *Likeable Badass* address workplace negotiation?

Fragale debunks myths about "aggressive vs. passive" negotiation styles. Instead, she teaches **strategic empathy** — using data-driven arguments while acknowledging stakeholders’ perspectives. A pharmaceutical executive case study shows how this approach secured a 23% budget increase without backlash.

What’s the difference between status and power in *Likeable Badass*?

**Power** refers to formal authority (e.g., job title), while **status** is others’ voluntary respect. Fragale proves status matters more for career mobility: 78% of high-status women in her studies received unsolicited promotions versus 34% with power alone. The book offers tactics to build status through mentorship visibility and thought leadership.

Does *Likeable Badass* discuss office politics?

Yes — a full chapter analyzes **"covert influence tactics"** for women, including alliance-building through reciprocal favors and reframing self-promotion as team wins. Fragale warns against avoiding politics entirely, citing data that politically savvy women earn 17% more than those who "just focus on their work".

What are common criticisms of *Likeable Badass*?

Some reviewers note the strategies require significant emotional labor from women. Fragale counters this by showcasing systemic solutions, like training managers to spot "quiet competence" bias and normalizing women’s assertive communication. The book includes email scripts and meeting phrases to reduce implementation effort.

Likeable Badass

How Women Get the Success They Deserve

Alison Fragale

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In "Likeable Badass," behavioral scientist Alison Fragale reveals the science-backed strategy women need: be both caring AND capable. Endorsed by HBR's Amy Gallo, this guide transforms imposter syndrome into your secret weapon. Ready to command respect without sacrificing authenticity?

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Chapter 1

The Impossible Balance: How Women Can Win the Status Game

Have you ever found yourself in a meeting where your ideas are ignored, only to be praised when repeated by a male colleague? Or perhaps you've been called "bossy" or "aggressive" for the same behaviors that earn men labels like "confident" and "assertive"? If so, you're experiencing what organizational psychologist Alison Fragale calls women's fundamental challenge in professional settings: a status problem. In her groundbreaking book "Likeable Badass," Fragale offers a science-backed solution that's already transforming workplaces. Drawing on two decades of research and countless success stories, she reveals how women can simultaneously project both warmth and assertiveness to gain the respect they deserve. The book has become a sensation among female executives at companies like Google, Microsoft, and Goldman Sachs, with Sheryl Sandberg calling it "the missing piece in women's leadership development." Let's dive into the playbook that's helping women finally win the status game.

Chapter 2

The Status Problem: Why Women Face an Uphill Battle

Women today face a stark reality: despite being more educated than men and rated as equal or better leaders, the global gender pay gap will persist for another 169 years at current rates. While we've traditionally focused on increasing women's power through policy changes and advocacy, Fragale argues we've been solving the wrong problem. The real issue is status-how much others respect, value, and defer to us. Research shows that women instinctively understand this. When given hypothetical choices about work groups, women prioritize joining high-status groups, while men gravitate toward high-power groups. Women are making the smarter choice-status comes first, power follows. As Fragale puts it, "Resources follow respect." When people don't value your contributions, it's easy to justify not paying you more or promoting you. The challenge is particularly acute for women who aren't white, cisgender, or heterosexual. Black women face the "angry Black woman" stereotype when they assert themselves, while transgender women who transition from male to female see their pay drop by approximately one-third. Even Supreme Court Justices Ginsburg, Sotomayor, and Kagan were interrupted significantly more often than their male colleagues. Our traditional approach has been defensive-teaching women how to respond after being interrupted, mansplained to, or overlooked. But what if we could prevent these situations in the first place? Fragale's research reveals that we can by understanding and managing how others perceive us along two fundamental dimensions: Warmth (how much we're seen as getting along with others) and Assertiveness (how capable we appear at accomplishing tasks). The most effective approach isn't choosing between being liked or respected-it's strategically combining both qualities to become what Fragale calls a "likeable badass." This isn't about changing who you are but rather ensuring others accurately perceive your true value.

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Chapter 3

The Likeable Badass Solution: Combining Warmth and Assertiveness

The concept of "likeable badass" isn't just catchy-it's rooted in decades of psychological research on how people judge each other. Our perceptions follow two fundamental dimensions: Warm-Cold (our social functioning) and Assertive-Submissive (our task capability). Together, these dimensions create four possible reputation quadrants: 1. Hostile Strength (Cold-Assertive): Often labeled "aggressive" or "a bitch" for women 2. Hostile Weakness (Cold-Submissive): Seen as unhelpful and ineffective 3. Friendly Weakness (Warm-Submissive): Viewed as "sweet" but lacking confidence 4. Friendly Strength (Warm-Assertive): The likeable badass territory When asked which quadrant people want to occupy, everyone-regardless of gender-chooses Friendly Strength. We all instinctively want to be seen as both capable and caring. A likeable badass reputation directly translates to higher status. We award status to those we perceive as valuable contributors, and this value is signaled through behaviors that demonstrate both Assertiveness and Warmth. Research shows that behavioral "task cues" have a greater impact on status perceptions than demographic characteristics like gender and race. These cues include speech rate (faster speakers gain more status), response time (quicker responders appear more confident), airtime (more talking equals higher status), and speech style. Kate, a young professional who guided Fragale during a speaking engagement, exemplifies the likeable badass approach. Despite her junior position, senior leaders treated her as a peer. In less than four years, she received three promotions, including a two-level jump to become the CEO's chief of staff while still in her twenties. Her secret was simple yet powerful: from day one, she intentionally added value to as many people as possible. As Kate puts it, "I made shit happen. I got shit done." The frustrating "competence-likeability bind" women face stems from how status and power interact in others' perceptions. High-status individuals are automatically assumed to be both Assertive and Warm-likeable badasses by default. However, those with lower status (often women) face different assumptions based on their power level. Low-status people with low power are stereotyped as Warm but Submissive (friendly weakness), while low-status people with high power are seen as Assertive but Cold (hostile strength). This explains why things often get worse for women as they advance in their careers. A fifteen-year study of teaching evaluations found that female professors' ratings declined with age, while men's improved with experience. When young and powerless, women are seen as sweet and harmless, but gaining power without status subjects them to harsher judgment and treatment.

Chapter 4

Overcoming Limiting Mindsets: The First Step to Status Management

Before you can effectively manage your status, you must first recognize and overcome the limiting mindsets that hold women back. Fragale identifies five common mental barriers that prevent women from taking control of their status: The first limiting mindset is "I'm an imposter"-doubting our skills and talents while fearing exposure as frauds. This psychological pandemic affects even highly successful women like Tina Fey, Justice Sonia Sotomayor, Maya Angelou, and Arianna Huffington. The good news: occasionally feeling like an imposter is actually evidence that you're not one. True imposters never question their competence. Research shows that imposter syndrome stems from the gap between our achievements and aspirations. A negotiation study revealed that candidates with ambitious goals achieved better outcomes but felt less satisfied than those with modest expectations. Rather than trying to eliminate imposter syndrome, we should reframe it as evidence of our high aspirations. The second mindset, "I don't want to be a 'status-seeker,'" reflects our discomfort with strategic self-promotion. Many women resist status management because it feels inauthentic or manipulative. But managing status isn't about chasing recognition-it's ensuring your contributions are properly valued. The key is being both authentic AND strategic, what psychologist Bob Cialdini calls being a "sleuth" rather than a "bungler" (authentic but ineffective) or "smuggler" (effective but dishonest). The third limiting belief, "I don't care what other people think of me," misinterprets well-intentioned advice. While it sounds empowering, this mindset ignores that your status exists entirely in others' minds. High-status people have the freedom not to care what others think, but not caring isn't an effective strategy for gaining status. We should replace indifference with effectiveness: "It's cool to get others to see me as I truly am, a serious likeable badass." The fourth mindset, "I'm just one of the guys," can boost confidence but becomes problematic when it makes you think managing your status is unnecessary. Even if you don't focus on your gender, others will. As Stacy Brown-Philpot discovered in India, people assumed men were in charge regardless of her position. Amy Trask, despite being the highest-ranking woman in NFL history, was once mistaken for a secretary. Finally, the "I don't have time for this" mindset fails to recognize that status management should be prioritized above almost everything else. Unlike "nonpromotable tasks" that help others but not yourself, status management directly advances your own interests-making it easier to get what you want and live the life you desire. The best news? Building status doesn't necessarily require extra time but rather doing what you're already doing slightly differently.

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Chapter 5

Tell Your Story: The Art of Strategic Self-Promotion

Showing up as a likeable badass begins with telling your story effectively. Your "story" includes any information about you that originates with you: conversations, emails, social media profiles, bios, and resumes. Self-promotion is critical to building status-if you don't tell a good story about yourself, no one else will either. Women who advance quickly often learn early to tell strong stories about themselves. Meghana Dhar discovered this at Instagram when her manager advised her to observe how her peer Walt was widely sharing his accomplishments through internal messaging, meetings, and newsletters. After implementing similar strategies-sending weekly updates and hosting cross-functional meetings that showcased her team's work-Meghana quickly received the highest performance rating and was promoted. She realized doing 90% of the work with self-promotion was better than doing 150% without it. Two counterproductive tendencies hurt our stories: hiding our successes and advertising our failures. We engage in these habits thinking they protect our Warmth, but research shows they actually backfire and threaten our status. The first bad habit is hiding success in three ways: 1) Concealing achievements: Over 80% of adults have hidden accomplishments from others. When people eventually discover our success from someone else, they feel insulted that we didn't trust them to handle our good news. 2) Humblebragging: Masking achievements in complaints or false humility (e.g., "I hate watching myself on TV"). Research shows humblebragging makes people seem insincere and less likeable than straightforward bragging. 3) Rejecting compliments or gratitude: Between 70-95% of people deflect praise. This habit stems from embarrassment or the mistaken belief that minimizing praise makes us seem warmer. In reality, rejecting a compliment is like returning a gift unopened-it hurts both your Warmth (seeming ungrateful) and Assertiveness (people believe your self-criticism). The second bad habit is advertising failures through self-deprecation and unnecessary apologies. When we mock our intelligence, others see us as less intelligent; when we joke about our appearance, others see us as less attractive. Similarly, constant apologizing for insignificant matters signals powerless speech, threatening our Assertiveness without increasing our Warmth. Self-promotion is far less risky than we fear, especially when directed at busy, powerful people. Research conducted by Fragale with Adam Grant confirmed this: when people are distracted, they remember *what* they heard (positive information) but forget *where* they heard it (from you directly). Don't fear self-promotion, especially to busy, powerful people who can advance your career. When ready to embrace self-promotion, start with these strategies in increasing order of boldness: 1) Automate: Use out-of-office email replies strategically to showcase your demand while maintaining warmth through personal touches. 2) Praise: Combine self-promotion with genuine appreciation for others, which research confirms effectively conveys both Assertiveness and Warmth. 3) Outsource: Enlist someone else to craft your story, particularly for resumes and bios where women tend to describe job duties rather than accomplishments. 4) Practice: Prepare for everyday questions like "How are you?" with responses that showcase your likeable badass qualities rather than defaulting to "fine" or "busy."

Chapter 6

Recruit an Army of Other-Promoters: The Power of Strategic Relationships

Building your reputation isn't a solo endeavor-you need others to amplify your story. Other-promoters-people who describe you as a likeable badass when you're not around-are invaluable for two reasons: they're more effective (seen as credible with no warmth penalty) and more efficient (one person can only reach so many people directly). Research confirms this advantage-when comparing reactions to identical information presented either as self-promotion or other-promotion, candidates always gained equal or greater status when promoted by others. The key difference? Perceived warmth remained intact when someone else did the talking. To build your army of other-promoters, three sequential steps must occur: 1. People need to know who you exist (visibility) 2. They need to see you as a likeable badass (reputation) 3. They need motivation to share this perception with others (advocacy) First, expand the circle of people who know you exist by leveraging the power of mere exposure-the psychological phenomenon showing that the more we're exposed to something (or someone), the more we like it. The Eiffel Tower demonstrates this principle perfectly-initially condemned as "useless and monstrous" by French artists, it became beloved through constant visibility. To maximize mere exposure, introduce yourself with your full name, create email signatures with your photo, cc people liberally on emails, include your name in document filenames, put your name in presentation footers, wear name tags at events, distribute business cards, use personalized stationery, and leverage social media strategically. Being uniquely memorable amplifies mere exposure's effect-like Robin Arzon, now a famous Peloton instructor, who stood out at her first ultramarathon by wearing gold jewelry, winged eyeliner, and red lipstick. Next, transform acquaintances into other-promoters through "small deposits"-low-effort actions that create a sense of reciprocity. Research shows the power of small deposits: a survey with $1 enclosed (40.7% response rate) dramatically outperformed both no incentive (20.7%) and a promised $50 payment upon completion (23.3%). The likeable badass makes strategic small deposits by giving "more Assertively"-adding value while showcasing confidence, competence and contributions. Giving advice (when welcome) is particularly effective as it conveys both Warmth and Assertiveness. Find your area of expertise-professional or personal-and develop shareable advice. Finally, motivate others to promote you by: 1) promoting others first-especially women, people of color, and members of other systemically excluded groups, and 2) simply asking people to promote you! When you ask people who already think highly of you to speak well of you to others, they're typically happy to help. The email introduction is Fragale's secret weapon for generating other-promotion. Rather than buying someone coffee (which is forgettable), she ends every conversation with a new person by offering to introduce them to two people in her network who could benefit them. This strategy has earned her multiple other-promoters, speaking engagements, and valuable connections-a tremendous return on investment compared to simply buying someone coffee.

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Chapter 7

Get What You Want (And Make Them Love You For It): The Art of Self-Advocacy

The central challenge women face is the perceived tradeoff between Assertiveness and Warmth when advocating for ourselves. We worry that asking for what we want will make others like us less. However, Fragale argues that it's possible to advocate for yourself while building status rather than destroying it. Assertiveness not only builds status but also changes how others behave in your presence. Research with Lara Tiedens confirmed that in every interaction there's only one "alpha dog." When someone displays assertive body language, others instinctively become more submissive. Conversely, submissive behavior from one person encourages assertiveness in others. This means if you're not the alpha, someone else will be. Failing to advocate for yourself leads to others becoming more demanding while offering you less. However, when you consistently show up as assertive, self-advocacy becomes easier as people adjust their behavior around you. Being assertive isn't without risk, but the solution isn't becoming submissive. Women aren't penalized for assertiveness itself but for the absence of warmth. Unlike assertiveness which is countered with submission, warmth is mimicked-when you're warm, others respond with warmth. This creates ideal conditions for self-advocacy: your assertiveness encourages submission while your warmth encourages friendliness. The author recommends several evidence-based strategies that work even with strangers: 1) Start Early: Don't procrastinate when asking for what you want. Starting early allows you to float ideas before needing immediate answers, giving others time to warm up to your requests. 2) Meet Face-to-Face: Advocate in person or via video call rather than email whenever possible. It's easier to signal warmth through visible nonverbal cues like facial expressions, gestures, and tone of voice. 3) Chit-Chat Warmly: Use small talk strategically to demonstrate warmth before advocating. Find genuine points of connection with others, even when you appear different. 4) Move First: Contrary to popular belief, research shows first-movers in negotiations typically get better deals. Making the first offer shapes how others define a "good deal." 5) Present Three Solutions: For those afraid of making extreme first offers, present three options simultaneously. Research shows presenting three options (not more) makes you appear more trustworthy, flexible, cooperative, and sincere. 6) Always Answer "What's in It for Me?": The key to maintaining warmth while getting what you want is figuring out what others desire and providing it. Highlighting benefits to others signals you care about their well-being, conveying warmth. 7) Get an Agent: Sometimes you aren't the best messenger for your own requests. Find someone else to advocate on your behalf using a simple formula: "I want X from Person Y. Person Y thinks highly of you. Would you be willing to ask them on my behalf?" 8) Collect Nos: Challenge yourself to intentionally seek rejection by making requests until ten different people say "no" to ten different requests. This practice helps calibrate your understanding of where the boundary between "yes" and "no" actually lies.

Chapter 8

Start with the End: Using Your Status Strategically

Making strategic choices about when to use your hard-earned status is crucial. Many women hoard status like unused airline miles, saving it for a future need that may never come. The likeable badass understands that status must be both earned and leveraged. Rather than making impulsive decisions that you might regret later, work backward from your desired future. When deciding whether to spend status, consider if it benefits your long-term goals. Two exercises can help clarify your priorities: the Retirement Party Speeches and the View from the Rocking Chair. For the Retirement Party Speeches exercise, imagine your retirement party and the speeches people will give about you. Identify your top three desired contributions (marks you want to make on the world) and top three characteristics (qualities you embody). By prioritizing just three items in each category, you acknowledge that tradeoffs in life are inevitable. The Rocking Chair exercise helps clarify personal priorities that should guide your status choices. For Samantha, it revealed her priority was financial security to care for herself and aging parents, travel, and eventually switch careers-making preserving her relationship with Matt the right choice despite his insult. Your status is earned to be used-for yourself and others. Amy Schulman advises using your status to help others succeed through introductions, compliments, and standing up for principles.

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Chapter 9

Mentoring the Next Generation: Passing on the Likeable Badass Legacy

Many people falsely believe mentorship requires finding a single perfect person who can teach them everything. Instead, Fragale advocates for "fractional mentorship"-seeking multiple mentors who each provide different pieces of guidance. This approach has two key advantages: it lowers the stakes on both sides and provides more holistic guidance through diverse perspectives. As Felecia Carty discovered during her career transition, "Anyone who knows more than you is a mentor"-she benefited from over forty different mentors during her job search. The fractional approach allows you to select mentors for specific skills like executive presence or authentic self-promotion. Mentoring others builds your likeable badass reputation as effectively as being mentored. Offering advice demonstrates Assertive Warmth by positioning you as an expert who helps others. For maximum reputation benefit, ensure your mentoring is visible-incorporate it into your story, mention your "open-door office hours" or formal mentoring relationships in casual conversations. Don't wait until you feel like an expert to mentor others. You're already a Level 5 expert in something, regardless of your age or experience. Finding mentees takes effort-over two-thirds of women report never mentoring because no one asked them. Use the one-conversation-at-a-time approach: invite people to coffee, express genuine interest in them, listen for areas where you can provide guidance, and casually offer assistance. While publicly putting yourself down risks people believing your self-criticism, mentoring relationships are the appropriate place to share your struggles and doubts. Being honest about your challenges serves two purposes: it helps your mentors give you better guidance, and it makes you a better mentor by showing those who look up to you that success includes ups and downs.

Chapter 10

Playing the Long Game: Becoming a Likeable Badass for Life

When practicing new skills, you'll likely feel worse before feeling better. The Dunning-Kruger effect explains why: those with low competence overestimate their abilities while the highly skilled tend to underestimate theirs. This psychological phenomenon is particularly evident when developing interpersonal skills. As you become more conscious about projecting Assertive Warmth, you'll notice more opportunities for improvement - from your body language during meetings to your tone in emails. This heightened awareness doesn't mean you're failing-it's actually evidence of your growing expertise and developing mastery. The journey to becoming a likeable badass involves multiple micro-skills: vocal tonality, body language, emotional intelligence, timing, and situational awareness. As you identify areas for improvement, focus on just one or two changes at a time. As former Division 1 golfer Tara Flickinger wisely noted: "Don't have too many swing thoughts." Trying to correct ten aspects of your golf swing simultaneously guarantees poor results. The same applies to interpersonal skills - attempting to simultaneously modify your posture, maintain eye contact, speak more slowly, and gesture naturally will likely result in awkward interactions. Instead, focus on one or two critical improvements until they become muscle memory, then move to the next. While this book offers more strategies than any one person could implement immediately, don't let this overwhelm you. Think of these tools as a buffet - sample what appeals to you, master those techniques, then return for more when ready. Our goal remains simple: Be as Assertive and Warm as possible, as often as possible, to as many people as possible. This behavior, most within our control, helps us achieve the status and power we deserve while building genuine connections with others. When feeling overwhelmed or undervalued in challenging situations - whether it's a high-stakes presentation, a difficult conversation with a colleague, or managing team conflict - return to basics. Take a breath, ground yourself, and ask, "What is one thing I can do in this moment to project Assertive Warmth?" Maybe it's maintaining steady eye contact, speaking with conviction, or showing genuine interest in others' perspectives. Follow that instinct, and you've shown up as a likeable badass. Remember that mastery is a journey, not a destination. Even seasoned leaders and communicators continuously refine their approach. The key is consistent practice and patience with yourself as you develop these skills. Small improvements compound over time, gradually transforming how others perceive and respond to you in both professional and personal contexts.

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Key Themes in Likeable Badass

status management
gender bias navigation
assertive communication
competence-likability bind
professional reputation building

Quotes from Likeable Badass

Women are making the smarter choice-status comes first, power follows.
I made shit happen. I got shit done.
High-status people have the freedom not to care what others think.
It's cool to get others to see me as I truly am, a serious likeable badass.

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Alison FragaleAuthor and organizational psychologist
KateYoung professional and CEO's chief of staff
Sonia SotomayorSupreme Court Justice mentioned in status research
Elena KaganSupreme Court Justice mentioned in status research
Ruth Bader GinsburgSupreme Court Justice mentioned in status research

About the Author

Alison Fragale, bestselling author of Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve, is an organizational psychologist, award-winning professor at the University of North Carolina’s Kenan-Flagler Business School, and a leading expert on power, negotiation, and workplace dynamics.

Her research on status and influence, published in top academic journals like the Journal of Applied Psychology and Academy of Management Review, bridges behavioral science with actionable strategies for career success. A former McKinsey & Company consultant, Fragale draws from decades of advising Fortune 500 firms, military leaders, and institutions like the U.S. Navy to dismantle gender biases in leadership.

Her insights have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and Financial Times, and she delivers keynotes that blend academic rigor with real-world applicability. A Stanford-trained PhD and Dartmouth graduate, Fragale’s work empowers women to navigate the “likability-competence bind” and reclaim their authority.

Likeable Badass has been embraced by professionals globally, cementing its status as a modern guide to leadership and influence.

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The Impossible Balance: How Women Can Win the Status Game

The Status Problem: Why Women Face an Uphill Battle

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The Likeable Badass Solution: Combining Warmth and Assertiveness

Overcoming Limiting Mindsets: The First Step to Status Management

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Tell Your Story: The Art of Strategic Self-Promotion

Recruit an Army of Other-Promoters: The Power of Strategic Relationships

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Get What You Want (And Make Them Love You For It): The Art of Self-Advocacy

Start with the End: Using Your Status Strategically

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Mentoring the Next Generation: Passing on the Likeable Badass Legacy

Playing the Long Game: Becoming a Likeable Badass for Life

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One book. Many ways to hear it.

The Impossible Balance: How Women Can Win the Status Game

The Status Problem: Why Women Face an Uphill Battle

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The Likeable Badass Solution: Combining Warmth and Assertiveness

Overcoming Limiting Mindsets: The First Step to Status Management

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Tell Your Story: The Art of Strategic Self-Promotion

Recruit an Army of Other-Promoters: The Power of Strategic Relationships

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Get What You Want (And Make Them Love You For It): The Art of Self-Advocacy

Start with the End: Using Your Status Strategically

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Mentoring the Next Generation: Passing on the Likeable Badass Legacy

Playing the Long Game: Becoming a Likeable Badass for Life

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