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    Growing Up in Public
    Devorah Heitner
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    In the digital age where kids' lives are constantly on display, Dr. Heitner's bestseller offers parents a revolutionary approach: prioritize character over surveillance. Featured in NYT and WSJ, this guide asks: what happens when we let children make mistakes privately in an increasingly public world?

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