Julie Lythcott-Haims
Julie Lythcott-Haims is an American author and speaker whose work explores parenting, higher education, race, identity, and adulting. A former Stanford dean, she is best known for the New York Times bestseller How to Raise an Adult, as well as the memoir Real American and the guide Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.
Biography & Author's Journey
Julie Lythcott-Haims built her public voice from a life lived across institutions, identities, and regions. She grew up in New York, Wisconsin, and Northern Virginia as the only child of an African-American father and a white British mother, experiences that later became central to her writing about belonging and race. She earned an undergraduate degree in American Studies from Stanford, a J.D. from Harvard Law School, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. Before becoming widely known as an author, she practiced corporate law, joined Stanford Law School as an associate dean, and then spent 14 years at Stanford, including a decade as dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising. Leaving university administration to pursue writing marked the major turn in her career. ((https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/real-american))
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"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure"
— Madeline Levine
"Julie Lythcott-Haims is patient, vulnerable, incisive, and encouraging"
— Ibram X. Kendi
"Julie Lythcott-Haims’ memoir, Real American, is not only worth the paper on which it is written, it is priceless"
— LaDoris Hazzard Cordell
"Julie Lythcott-Haims has long been one of America’s finest minds and fiercest voices"
— Daniel H. Pink
"They say there’s no manual for being a grown-up, but former Stanford dean Julie Lythcott-Haims has finally created one—and it’s a must-read"
— Lori Gottlieb
"Fierce and emphatic from the first page, Julie Lythcott-Haims’s self-searching memoir unrolls her own relationship to race"
— The Improper Bostonian
"Julie Lythcott-Haims understands that the goal of parenting should be to raise autonomous adults"
— William Deresiewicz
"Julie Lythcott-Haims's Real American fuses autobiography with politics"
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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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