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    Taming Your Defensive Reflex

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    2026年1月23日
    PsychologyPersonal DevelopmentCommunication skill

    Discover why defensiveness is a normal brain response and learn practical strategies to regulate your emotions when receiving criticism, transforming feedback from a perceived attack into an opportunity for growth.

    Taming Your Defensive Reflex

    Taming Your Defensive Reflex最佳语录

    “

    Feeling defensive is largely involuntary—it's a set of emotions like anger, anxiety, or shame that just happens. What we can control is how we respond to those feelings.

    ”

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    输入问题

    I have a tendency to react in a defensive way when I get a bad mark, or receive any feedback or critisicm. I tend to say and do things that almost proves myself wrong and dig in. I'd like help with regulating my emotional reactions so I can reply or take in the information without feeling like I need to prove them right or wrong.

    主持声音
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    该学习计划的一部分

    Stop being defensive & communicate better.

    Stop being defensive & communicate better.

    学习计划

    Stop being defensive & communicate better.

    2 h 56 m•4 集数
    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    学习计划

    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    2 h 33 m•4 集数
    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    学习计划

    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    2 h 9 m•4 集数

    核心要点

    1

    Defensiveness: Normal Feeling, Controlled Response

    0:00
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    0:39
    0:45
    0:58
    1:05
    2

    The Brain's Alarm System: Why Feedback Feels Like Danger

    1:29
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    2:24
    2:31
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    3:05
    3:23
    3:36
    3

    The Neuroscience of Emotional Regulation

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    4:38
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    5:25
    5:33
    5:55
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    4

    The Power of Separating Self from Performance

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    7:17
    7:42
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    8:38
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    Practical Strategies for Real-Time Regulation

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    The Art of Receiving Feedback Like a Pro

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    2:31
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    Your Feedback Transformation Playbook

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    Building Your Feedback-Ready Future

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