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    Stop Romanticizing Isolation: You're Not That Special

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    22 нояб. 2025 г.
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    Nia and Miles deliver harsh truths with humor about the real psychology behind "protecting others" by staying away. Spoiler: it's not noble, it's just fear dressed up pretty.

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    “

    We're not noble protectors; we're scared humans trying to avoid more hurt. We take our shame and turn it into a reason to avoid the very connections that could actually heal it.

    ”

    Этот аудиоурок был создан участником сообщества BeFreed

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    Romanticizing being alone to not hurt other people cause I’m not worth being with

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    Milesplay
    Источники знаний
    Healing the Shame That Binds You
    Anxiously Attached
    How Toxic Shame Sabotages Your Relationships and What to Do ...
    link
    https://fixyourpicker.com/how-toxic-shame-sabotages-your-relationships-and-what-to-do-about-it/
    Why Do I Self-Isolate Myself? | Your Journey Through
    link
    https://www.yourjourneythrough.com/blog/self-isolation
    When Low Self-Esteem Encourages Behaviors that Risk Rejection ...
    link
    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4103434/
    Avoidant attachment attenuates the need-threat for social exclusion but induces the threat for over-inclusion
    link
    https://public-pages-files-2025.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.881863/pdf

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    Topic Introduction & Source Material Setup

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    The Shame Behind the Story

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    The Attachment Angle

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    The Nervous System Reality Check

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    The Cost of the Story

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    Breaking the Pattern

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    The Path Forward

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    Wrap-up & Closing Reflection

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