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    The Chemistry of Love: Science Behind Choosing Your Person

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    21 de set. de 2025
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    What makes hearts race on first dates vs. years later? Drawing from David Buss's cross-cultural research, John Gottman's predictive relationship science, and Esther Perel's groundbreaking work on desire, discover the biological systems that drive our romantic choices-and how to harness them for lasting love.

    The Chemistry of Love: Science Behind Choosing Your Person

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    Choosing a partner and keeping a great relationship aren't separate arts—they're one continuous practice of noticing what draws you, deciding what actually matters, and designing the habits that keep love alive.

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    Pergunta de entrada

    What makes us fall in love with certain people and not others?

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    The Evolution of Desire
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    https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-evolution-of-desire-by-david-m-buss
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    https://www.befreed.ai/book/attached-by-amir-levine
    Mating in Captivity
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    https://www.befreed.ai/book/mating-in-captivity-by-esther-perel
    The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
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    https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3549332-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work
    Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
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    https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/19714497-hold-me-tight
    The All-or-Nothing Marriage
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    https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34001660-the-all-or-nothing-marriage

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