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The Wisdom of a Century: Living with Purpose and Joy
At 102 years old, Dr. Gladys McGarey stands as a living testament to a life fully embraced. Known as the "Mother of Holistic Medicine," her journey from the foothills of the Himalayas to pioneering integrative healthcare in America has transformed our understanding of healing. Despite facing significant sexism as one of the first female physicians of her era, Dr. McGarey helped establish the American Holistic Medical Association in 1978 as its only female founding member. Her approach has always been revolutionary-integrating Western medicine with Eastern and Indigenous healing traditions, championing natural processes like home births, and recognizing that illnesses offer profound insights into our souls' growth. What makes Dr. McGarey truly remarkable isn't just her longevity but her continued vitality-she maintains an active ten-year plan and embodies everything she teaches. Her work has attracted devoted followers across generations, including numerous celebrities and wellness pioneers who credit her with fundamentally changing their approach to health. Through six transformative secrets, she offers not just a path to healing disease but to healing life itself.
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Finding Your Reason for Living
I remember exactly when I first found my juice-my reason for living. Growing up in the Himalayas of India with undiagnosed dyslexia, school was a constant struggle. But during winter breaks, I found relief helping my missionary parents in their mobile medical camps serving the lowest castes and those with leprosy.
One pivotal day when I was eight, a man brought the rajah's wounded elephant to our camp. My mother treated the elephant's infected foot, removing a bamboo splinter. The grateful elephant lifted us onto his back and took us to play in the Ganges River. For the rest of the week, he visited daily, greeting my mother with trunk hugs before we all played in the water.
This experience helped me discover I was born to be a doctor. Though dyslexia always made school difficult, I learned it had no bearing on my intelligence. When carrying that purple antiseptic solution to the elephant, I connected so deeply with my joy that I knew my school troubles wouldn't stop me. I felt important, needed, and part of something meaningful.
The juice is our reason for living-our fulfillment and joy. It's what happens when life is activated by love. Each of us is here to connect with our unique gifts, which activates our desire to be alive. Without this juice, both physical and mental health start to waver. This is why I often ask patients what they have to live for, because without an answer, I can only temporarily relieve their symptoms.
Not everyone finds their path as young as I did. James, a recent computer science graduate, came to see me uncertain about his future. Though he had a degree, he had no interest in computer jobs. Through guided visualization, he connected with recurring dreams of a tall cactus and drumming sounds. After following his instinct to camp alone on the mesa, he returned transformed-eyes sparkling with juice-having discovered his calling in music production.
Sometimes finding our juice requires little external change. Lilian, a well-connected woman with a seemingly perfect life, came to me feeling purposeless with grown children and a secure marriage. When an accident left her hospitalized, I encouraged her to reconnect with her volunteer work planning a fundraiser for a children's society-right from her hospital bed. The project reinvigorated her, launching a new chapter of purpose-filled activity.
Our search for juice connects us to why we're here. Lives filled with juice become lives filled with purpose, which research shows reduces mortality risk, prevents cardiovascular events, and even mitigates Alzheimer's effects. When we tend to our souls and hearts by finding our juice, we improve not just our own well-being but the health of the world around us.
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Connecting with What Makes You Come Alive
In today's culture, we often judge success externally-through money or prestige-rather than by how we feel. The happiest people embrace their complexity and multiple interests, finding ways to integrate their passions rather than choosing between them.
For me, motherhood was always a source of juice. Despite criticism for having six children while working as a doctor, I found that my dual passions supported each other. Coming home to my children's smiles gave me juice for work, while patient interactions renewed my energy for parenting.
Living with juice requires naming what we want, yet many struggle to even know their desires. To reconnect with desire, try closing your eyes and simply allowing yourself to want. Let yourself yearn for whatever your heart whispers-a conversation, a job, friendships, even small pleasures. This yearning is life moving through you.
I think back to my childhood struggles-wanting a better teacher, improved eyesight, just one school friend. But beneath these specific desires was something greater: I wanted to serve, to know my struggles wouldn't hold me back forever. Each day, walking home up that steep mountainside, I'd see Ayah (my nanny) waiting for me on the porch. My desire to be in her loving arms pulled me forward when nothing else could.
Your wanting can get you through, too. Connect with whatever juice you already have-even if it seems insufficient. Find one small thing bringing you joy. Then ask yourself: What's your current relationship with your juice? Do you need more? Where might you find it?
Start small. Do something that feels good-make something with your hands, clean behind your sofa, repot a plant. Or do something for someone else. Even sending good energy to others has a remarkable effect. The search for juice itself is life reaching for life, suggesting you're more than just a beating heart-you're a living soul.
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The Essential Movement of Life
Have you ever felt frozen, unable to move forward? Perhaps you can't move past trauma or heartbreak, can't access your former passion, or feel so unmotivated that you fantasize about escaping somewhere undefined. You might have no idea what change to make or even how to get out of bed.
Feeling stuck is natural, but what can we do when our juice stagnates despite our efforts? To understand stuckness, consider Theresa, an eighty-year-old woman suffering from severe intestinal obstructions for months. She had consulted other doctors and tried various remedies without success.
After discussing her diet, water intake, and exercise habits-all reasonable-I asked broader questions about her emotions and social support. Eventually, Theresa reluctantly admitted she had lost five close friends and family members in the past year. When I asked if she had grieved, she responded, "Of course I've grieved. I'm sad."
Something about her answer seemed too simplistic. She saw grief as a reaction, not an experience-something that happens, not something we do. Her body visibly tightened as we discussed her losses. To understand how Theresa was digesting food, we first needed to examine how she was digesting her experience of loss.
Life itself is always in movement, so aligning with our life force means looking for the flow within us. Western medicine rarely connects physical issues to emotional states, focusing instead on isolated organs or mechanical issues. Yet people often know exactly where they're stuck when questioned properly.
Research shows even ten minutes of daily brisk walking extends life expectancy, and some of the world's longest-lived cultures incorporate daily walking. Without movement, our lymphatic system-which fights infection and removes toxins-cannot function properly, as lymph moves only when we move.
Ancient wisdom traditions recognize this truth. The Buddhist concept of impermanence focuses on how life is always changing, and suffering comes when we try to stop its flow. Understanding the power of movement can help us through almost anything-starting with realizing that being stuck is itself an illusion.
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Finding the Flow Around Life's Obstacles
Let's consider this more deeply: All life needs to move-and everything alive IS moving, even when it's hard to perceive.
I compare this to the Arizona desert, where I've lived for over sixty years. Many visitors see it as a dead, stagnant place. How wrong they are! When monsoon season arrives, dark clouds cross the afternoon sky, releasing brief but powerful rain. In those moments, the entire ecosystem springs into motion-cacti swell, birds call, lizards run about in jubilation. All that life was always there, waiting patiently for its moment.
Our life force is exactly like that-always present, always moving, just waiting for us to notice. When our energy stops moving completely, we die. This means no matter how stuck we feel, something within us is moving. Even sitting still, each of us is our own universe of motion-hearts beating, lungs breathing, digestive systems working.
Children understand this instinctively; they're always wiggling. I never stopped wiggling myself, partly because I couldn't, and partly because I saw nothing wrong with it. Wiggling moves our lymph, lubricates joints, and prevents muscle tension. When we feel joy, movement comes naturally-and conversely, movement can help us feel more joyful.
Movement helps chronic pain by lubricating joints, supporting muscles, improving circulation, and giving us focus beyond the pain itself. When in pain, start with deepening your breath, then allow your body to move with it. Fear often stops us from moving when we hurt, but some form of movement is almost always possible.
Life is like a forest stream-even when dammed, water continues flowing upstream, eventually finding a way around the obstacle. When we feel stuck, we need only look for where things are still moving and align our focus there. During Covid quarantine, I maintained my daily step goal by walking around my kitchen table, surrounded by treasures from my travels-a simple practice that kept me connected to life's movement even while at home.
Sometimes healing can only occur when an actual blockage is removed-whether it's a food we're eating, a relationship we're in, or a pattern in our life. Often, the blockage is simply a belief. My patient Shanti was pregnant and determined to have an intervention-free birth, but her cervix remained stubbornly closed during labor. By tapping into her spiritual practice through chanting, she found the flow and successfully delivered her baby naturally.
When we're stuck, we must look for the trickle going around the dam. Life is always moving-there's always a trickle forming around the dam. When we focus on this natural movement, we begin to relax our shame and release everything that isn't serving us.
Capítulo 6
The Transformative Power of Love
Susan, a young elementary school teacher and patient of mine, survived a terrible car accident that broke her back in several places. When I visited her in the hospital, she lay immobilized in a full-body cast, able to move only her mouth, eyebrows, and eyes. Her brother, an orthopedic surgeon, had told her she would never walk again.
To understand the relationship between love and fear, we must recognize how they operate in our lives. Fear is a natural response to bad news, but remaining in that state shuts out everything that might help us. Fear destroys our reason and clarity. That's why part of our collective life purpose is learning to move past fear into love.
Medicine often underestimates love's power. Love transforms everything it touches-labor from drudgery to bliss, laughter from cruelty to joy. When fear steps in, love steps out-and vice versa. Like a child learning to hum underwater to prevent inhaling water, practicing love is the solution to our fear habit. Love is infinitely stronger than fear, always.
This relationship resembles light and darkness. In the Carlsbad Caverns, my family witnessed how a single match illuminated an entire cave of darkness. Light overcomes darkness just as love overcomes fear. Throughout our lives, we face a fundamental choice: Will we direct our attention toward love or toward fear?
Choice is one of the trickiest concepts to explain in holistic medicine. It's the idea that there's always something we can do, even facing our greatest challenges. This isn't about blame-I don't consider myself the cause of my many health challenges including rickets, malarial hepatitis, kidney stones, and cancer (twice). Rather, choice is about how we respond to what happens to us.
We often choose fear automatically, especially after trauma. While we can't be blamed for suffering from trauma, how long we remain seized up is somewhat within our control. We can consciously decide how much focus to put on fear versus love.
Self-love was revolutionary when I started discussing it fifty years ago. Today, while the term is familiar, living it remains challenging. We can't truly love others until we believe we ourselves are lovable. When we refuse to love ourselves, we shut out love from everyone else too.
When diagnosed with breast cancer in my nineties, I had another opportunity to practice self-love. I chose to partner with medical professionals for treatment while taking responsibility for visualizing and loving myself into health. I loved myself, my body, and my life too much to let the tumor take more of my life force, focusing on that love rather than fear.
In what I call "living medicine," our bodies are the driving force in our well-being, with therapeutic modalities merely directing the healing process. Our role is to trust and give our cells the love they need to thrive-the essence of self-love.
Capítulo 7
The Community That Sustains Us
My favorite childhood memories come from our winter field camps, where everyone had purposeful work and we relied upon one another. This instilled in me a strong belief in community.
On a fundamental level, we're all connected, though it's easy to forget this and see ourselves as separate beings. We are social creatures who depend on one another to survive. We're part of families, cultures, countries, continents, and a species. We share experiences, genes, and even the air we breathe. While we may be separate beings, we're one community with a collective life force that requires tending.
This idea struck me powerfully in 1969 when Bill and I visited a kibbutz in Israel. We stayed up late discussing how everything in the community was interconnected-everyone had purpose and contributed to the collective well-being. This inspired the Baby Buggy program I ran throughout the 1970s and 1980s, supporting home births where women could be attended by loved ones and professionals in their own homes.
True community seems rare in our modern age. Even before the pandemic, we faced a crisis of loneliness across countries and demographics. This disconnection damages health-studies show feeling lonely has the same effect on longevity as smoking fifteen cigarettes daily, and poor social relationships increase heart disease risk by 29 percent and stroke risk by 32 percent.
Life comes from connection, is supported by connection, and creates connection. We're happiest when contributing to and drawing from our collective life force. This is my fourth secret: You are never truly alone. Connecting with community amplifies our individual life force by realigning it with the collective.
Modern conveniences have "sterilized" our lives of the discomfort of needing one another. With sufficient economic comfort, we've arranged our world so we never have to ask for anything. Apps replace neighbors for rides, dinner arrives with a click, and we hire people to walk our dogs or assemble furniture. We're constructing a "community-for-hire" rather than borrowing sugar or raising barns with neighbors.
These small, messy interactions once ensured we knew our neighbors and understood their lives, providing a safeguard against isolation. Choosing community means accepting less control. When Bill and I moved into our second Arizona home in 1958, our adobe house became a gathering place. We regularly hosted fifteen people around our dinner table, held fundraisers, welcomed medical professionals for discussions, and created a space where neighborhood children gathered daily.
I aim to love everyone, but that doesn't mean I like everyone. Similarly, we can be friends with everyone to varying degrees-accepting them regardless of who they are or what they believe. We can find the friend within them, even if it's only a small slice of who they are.
Setting healthy boundaries begins with self-knowledge-understanding what gives us juice and what drains it, what aligns with our soul's path and what interferes. Today we often misunderstand boundaries as fortress walls meant to keep people out. In truth, boundaries come from within-they're about how we allocate our attention and energy.
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Finding Wisdom in Every Experience
Turning toward life is a gradual process of tiny, repeated choices that can take decades to fully realize. The true art of living well involves approaching each experience with curiosity, asking: How can I accept what life offers and find opportunity within it, even when it pushes me to my edge?
Life becomes most meaningful when we extract lessons from everything we encounter. This requires courage-especially during difficult times when we'd rather resist learning altogether.
At sixty-nine, I found myself howling at the stars in my backyard, wearing Bill's oversized slippers, trying desperately to understand his choices that had caused me such agonizing pain. This was without doubt the hardest phase of my life. I share this to emphasize that finding lessons in life's challenges isn't easy-it's a discipline that requires commitment, especially when we feel wronged or angry.
Yet this practice transforms our relationship with life. When it becomes habit, even painful moments become opportunities for growth. Life constantly communicates with us through events, people, and circumstances-our job is to listen.
Recently, I made the difficult decision to stop driving after driving over a curb-a wake-up call that my centenarian eyes weren't reliable enough for safety anymore. Rather than denying this reality, I thought about my great-grandchildren playing on their bikes and neighbors walking dogs, and handed over my keys.
True optimism isn't about denying difficulties-what some now call "toxic positivity." When Bill once criticized me for always saying things were "wonderful," I explained that I simply look for what's wonderful in every situation while still acknowledging what hurts. Focusing on lessons allows us to access gratitude even during life's most challenging moments.
When life becomes challenging, it's easy to feel the world is working against us. I learned this lesson early when, as a young girl in India, I punched a classmate after she insisted my mother must be "just a nurse" because women couldn't be doctors. Soon I was fighting with everyone-scrabbling with boys, exchanging comebacks with girls, and catching more British noses with my right hook.
Then one morning, I realized I had no friends. Looking for inspiration, I thought of my mother who never fought yet was no pushover. She approached situations with delight and humor, remaining curious about people even when disagreeing. I decided to redirect my energy toward engaging with life rather than battling it.
This shift became pivotal-I stopped fighting not just other kids but life itself. I learned to let challenges teach me instead of draining myself struggling against them. Growth requires some suffering, and redirecting our energy back toward life after pain is a choice that requires our highest selves.
Capítulo 9
Investing Your Life Force Wisely
Since learning not to fight in my childhood, I've directed my energy daily toward what feels blissful and good. This has led to a remarkably happy life that's lasted nearly 102 years. When people ask what I'm doing differently, my answer centers on energy-a concept that's taken me a lifetime to articulate.
Life itself is energy. The first law of thermodynamics states that energy is neither created nor destroyed, only changed in form. Everything in our world-including us-is made of energy. Our life force is the directional aspect of that energy, how it moves through us, where it comes from and where it's going.
Living well is therefore about steering our energy toward life, directing our loving attention to the pulse that ebbs and flows within us. When we find that precise rhythm and immerse ourselves in it, life comes alive and becomes a joyful interaction. We discover our bliss in the flow of love.
My sixth and final secret is: Spend your energy wildly. When we fully integrate the first five secrets, we consciously invest our life force in what gives it back to us, creating a continuous flow of positivity. When we align our energy with life, we establish a give-and-take relationship with the source. Rather than trying to generate our own energy (which is impossible since energy is neither created nor destroyed), we invest what we have in life, and when depleted, we simply borrow it back.
Modern culture promotes self-importance and independence, encouraging us to hoard our resources out of fear of not having enough. This fear, often passed down through generations, blocks the flow of life force both outward and inward. Instead of living from this fear, we must ask: What do I have enough of? What can I spare? What can I give in order to receive?
My parents lived wild, incredible lives, spending every bit of their energy on what they loved-and nothing else. My mother valued her typewriter ribbon over hair ribbons and maintained her humor until her final moments. After a bad fall that would lead to her death, she joked from her hospital gurney, "The old gray mare just ain't what she used to be," understanding that as long as she had energy left, she should spend it on bringing joy.
Life's flow is based on rhythm-forests burn and regrow, bodies are born and die, agriculture follows seasons of planting and rest. Rest is a natural part of this rhythm, especially during periods of growth. True rest is an action-not laziness or the absence of activity. While resting, we should think kind, regenerative thoughts about our body, nourish ourselves, and be fully present.
Capítulo 10
Embracing Life's Journey at Any Age
When something catches your negative attention, you face a choice: move away from it or stick with it. If you choose to stay, find what's positive and feed that. Pay attention to what matters rather than fighting your life with negativity.
Barry, in his seventies, came to me with chronic fatigue syndrome. Despite ample sleep, his energy never returned. While his wife maintained their garden and social life, he spent days in his recliner watching news. Through our work together, he discovered what he truly liked-writing stories from his life, creating fictional adventures, taking solo trips to new destinations, and even cycling again after sixty years. His energy returned as he invested in activities that brought him joy.
My divorce was probably the hardest challenge I ever faced. Though I had forgiven Bill's decision, my life force still flowed toward him negatively, diminishing my vitality. On my seventy-ninth birthday, I had a revelatory dream showing me that the negativity-not our connection-was draining me. In the years that followed, I sent love to the Bill who had married me while refusing to give energy to the Bill who had left me. Today, when I think of Bill McGarey, that love is what I remember best.
This is my suggestion for discerning subtle shifts in energy expenditure. If there's an aspect of an activity or person you dislike but want to keep in your life, adjust the energy you give it. Find what you do like and invest your life force there.
Ed and Belle's marriage in their later years exemplifies perfect timing-they met when both were ready for a new chapter focused on fun rather than work. This concept, sometimes called "coconut time" in the tropics, reminds us that things happen when they're meant to, not when we think they should.
My father told us a story about finding a white turtle inside a crocodile they'd killed-incredibly, the turtle was still alive and simply walked away after being freed. This taught us to hang on through dark times, as rescue might come from unexpected places.
Healing takes its own time too. What if, instead of chasing youth, we embraced aging as a process of becoming better? At 93, I had a dream where Jesus encouraged me to sing non-religious songs-helping me finally trust my voice after decades as a doctor, mother, and grandmother.
I still wake each morning thinking, "What are we going to learn today?" I encourage making ten-year plans-mine involves creating a Village for Living Medicine, a community where people practice wellness together and human bodies are recognized as divine sanctuaries.
Just as I once helped my breech baby turn in the womb by gently guiding him to face life head-first, I hope these lessons from my 102 years help turn you toward life. Whether you've forgotten or never known it, life is there, pulsing through your body and soul, waiting for you to embrace it.
