Not Nice by Aziz Gazipura Summary
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Break free from the prison of people-pleasing with Dr. Gazipura's life-changing bestseller. Tired of feeling responsible for everyone's emotions? This confidence expert reveals why "niceness" is sabotaging your relationships and success. Readers call it transformative - the ultimate guide to authentic self-expression without guilt.
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Breaking the Chains of Niceness
Have you ever smiled through gritted teeth while someone took advantage of your time? Or swallowed your true thoughts to avoid potential conflict? You're not alone. What we call "being nice" isn't about goodness at all - it's about fear. At its core, niceness is a prison built from our terror of disapproval. We monitor every word, analyze every reaction, and exhaust ourselves trying to ensure no one experiences a moment's discomfort around us. This constant self-surveillance isn't kindness - it's a survival strategy that leaves us anxious, resentful, and disconnected from our authentic selves. Niceness extracts a devastating toll that extends far beyond occasional discomfort. First comes the anxiety - constant worry about saying the wrong thing, making a fool of yourself, or causing someone else discomfort. This chronic stress floods your system with cortisol, disrupting sleep, digestion, and emotional regulation. Beneath this anxiety lurks something more surprising: rage. While nice people appear calm on the surface, resentment builds underneath. This anger either gets suppressed, displaced onto safer targets like family, or manifests as physical symptoms. This leads to the third cost: chronic pain. Many nice people suffer from mysterious physical ailments - back pain, IBS, TMJ, headaches - that seem to have no clear cause. These conditions often represent the body's attempt to distract from unacceptable emotions like anger. Perhaps most devastating is the isolation. We sacrifice our authentic selves hoping for connection, yet true intimacy remains elusive. The cruel irony? The very behavior we think will bring connection - being nice - actually prevents it.
Establishing Boundaries and Finding Your Voice
Embracing Your Shadow: The Power of Wholeness
The Power of No: Creating Space for What Matters
Healthy Selfishness: The Foundation of Genuine Generosity
Living By Your Own Rules: The Ultimate Freedom
From Nice to Authentic: The Path to True Connection
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Criado por ex-alunos da Universidade de Columbia em San Francisco
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Criado por ex-alunos da Universidade de Columbia em San Francisco
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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