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    Nia and Eli deliver harsh truths about how emotionally absent parents wire us to sabotage relationships. From the 'Little Me Pact' to avoidant attachment, discover why your nervous system treats intimacy like danger-and how to rewire it.

    Why You Push Love Away: Childhood's Cruel Blueprint

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    Pushing people away isn't a character flaw; it's an adaptation that served us once but might not be serving us anymore. It's our nervous system trying to protect us based on what it learned way back when we were kids.

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    Pushing people away and why childhood can cause that

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    Emotionally Absent Mother
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    What Causes Avoidant Attachment?
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    https://www.simplypsychology.org/what-causes-avoidant-attachment.html
    Love Anxiously or Avoidantly: The link between childhood trauma, personality characteristics, and intimate relationships in adulthood
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    https://www.psycharchives.org/en/item/efbd8328-bad5-4084-a8bc-d21f2fa7fabb
    [PDF] The Psychological Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Relationships
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