Two anxious-avoidant hearts navigate the painful cycle of broken-up-but-still-connected long distance love. Nia and Eli decode why you fight constantly yet can't let go, offering hope for healing.

An anxious-avoidant girl and an anxious-avoidant guy, long-distance, broken up, constant contact, so in love with each other, fighting so much, so confused on what they want


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Nia: Hey everyone, welcome to your personalized podcast from BeFreed! I'm Nia, and I'm here with Eli to dive deep into something that's probably hitting way too close to home for a lot of our listeners today.
Eli: Absolutely, Nia! And wow, do we have a conversation ahead of us. We're talking about that incredibly painful yet magnetic dynamic between two people who are both anxious-avoidant, navigating a long-distance relationship, broken up but still in constant contact, deeply in love but fighting constantly-basically living in emotional chaos.
Nia: Right? It's like being caught in this tornado of feelings where you can't tell if you're coming or going. You know what I mean? One minute you're madly in love, the next you're screaming at each other, then you break up, but somehow you're still texting at 2 AM.