Male Psychology: Trauma Bonds, Testosterone, and Situationships
Explore male psychology, trauma bonds, and situationships. Learn how intermittent reinforcement and testosterone levels impact emotional connections and intimacy.
Best quote from Male Psychology: Trauma Bonds, Testosterone, and Situationships
You are not necessarily addicted to the person; you are addicted to the relief from the pain that the person caused. It is a chemical dependency, plain and simple.
This audio lesson was created by a BeFreed community member
I’m trying to understand the dynamics of male psychology. I’m a 49-year-old female and I’ve been in an on and off Situationship with a man and I’d like more clarity. I feel that we have created a trauma bond with intermittent reinforcement what I’m trying to understand is how I boost his testosterone. Do sending photos, sexy voice notes, short video clips working out together achieving our second-degree black belts together boost his testosterone? Am I more than just sex?
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