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The Manosphere, Pickup Culture & Male Loneliness: Breaking the Cycle

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From the Surgeon General's loneliness epidemic to dating app algorithms that leave most men invisible, this episode untangles why male isolation is surging. Drawing from Rachel O'Neill's ethnography, Gottman Institute research, and Esther Perel's relationship insights, discover evidence-based alternatives to pickup culture.

The Manosphere, Pickup Culture & Male Loneliness: Breaking the Cycle
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Models
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/models-by-mark-manson
Hidden Brain
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https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-lonely-american-man/
The Evolution of Desire
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-evolution-of-desire-by-david-m-buss
Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets
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https://colab.ws/articles/10.1126/sciadv.aap9815
Effectiveness of physical activity interventions for improving depression, anxiety and distress: an overview of systematic reviews
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36796860/
The Game
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-game-by-neil-strauss
Huberman Lab
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https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/guest-series-dr-paul-conti-how-to-build-and-maintain-healthy-relationships
No More Mr. Nice Guy
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/no-more-mr-nice-guy-by-robert-a-glover
The Role of Community-Based Men’s Sheds in Health Promotion for Older Men: A Mixed-Methods Systematic Review
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8928410/
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/king-warrior-magician-lover-by-douglas-gillette
Esther Perel TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved
Seduction: Men, Masculinity and Mediated Intimacy
link
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seduction-rachel-oneill/1127373920
Esther Perel TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship
Eight Dates
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/eight-dates-by-john-gottman
When Work Disappears: Manufacturing Decline and the Falling Marriage Market Value of Young Men
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https://www.nber.org/papers/w23173
The State of American Friendship: Change, Challenges, and Loss
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https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/the-state-of-american-friendship-change-challenges-and-loss/
The Dark Triad: Facilitating a short‑term mating strategy in men
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1002/per.698
Huberman Lab
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https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/science-of-social-bonding-in-family-friendship-and-romantic-love
The Good Life
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-good-life-by-robert-waldinger
Modern Wisdom
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https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/537-richard-reeves-does-anyone-care-about-mens-struggles/id1347973549?i=1000582114714
Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation
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https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf
The Status Game
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https://www.befreed.ai/book/the-status-game-by-will-storr
Loneliness and social isolation as risk factors for mortality: a meta-analytic review
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25910392/
Share of U.S. adults living without a romantic partner has ticked down in recent years
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https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2025/01/08/share-of-us-adults-living-without-a-romantic-partner-has-ticked-down-in-recent-years/
All the Single Ladies: Washington, D.C., Has the Highest Ratio of Unmarried Women to Unmarried Men
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https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2023/09/unmarried-women-men.html
Robert Waldinger TED Talk
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https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness
5 facts about single Americans for Valentine’s Day
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https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/
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Why are so many men feeling isolated, and what are healthier alternatives to pickup culture?

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