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    Economics of Love and Pursuit

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    An exploration of Aaron Clarey's controversial book that applies economic analysis to relationships, questioning whether men's pursuit of women is worth the investment of time, money, and emotional resources.

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    Maybe the real return on investment isn't finding someone else to complete you, but becoming someone who's genuinely complete on their own and then sharing that completeness with someone else.

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    The Hidden Economics of Romance

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    The Brutal Mathematics of Modern Dating

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    The Price of Playing the Game

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    When the Market Shifts Against You

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    Redefining Success in the Game of Life

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    The Wisdom Hidden in Cold Numbers

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