Desire Needs Space to Thrive
Exploring Esther Perel's provocative thesis that the security we create in relationships might be undermining our passion, and how couples can reconcile their needs for both intimacy and excitement.
Best quote from Desire Needs Space to Thrive
Desire needs uncertainty to thrive, but we've built our relationships around eliminating uncertainty. The more we merge our identities, the more desire tends to fade.
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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