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    The Emotional Pause: Mastering Emotional Self-Regulation

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    Learn to master emotional self-regulation on The Emotional Pause. Discover how to manage triggers and understand the evolutionary roots of feelings like jealousy.

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    Emotional self-regulation is the ability to find that tiny bit of space between the trigger and the response, allowing you to put thought between the feeling and the speaking so you can choose a response that aligns with your values.

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    I want to be strong i want to control my emotions jealousy comparing or blurting out without thinking out of annoyance bursting from anger or annoyance i want to not be emotionally triggered

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    How To Deal With Jealousy
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    https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-to-deal-with-jealousy
    Are You a Blurter? | Psychology Today
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    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-at-the-broken-places/201812/are-you-a-blurter
    Emotional Self-Regulation: What This Is and How You Develop It
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    https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-self-regulation/
    Self-regulation for adults: Strategies for getting a handle on ...
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    https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/self-regulation-for-adults-strategies-for-getting-a-handle-on-emotions-and-behavior
    21 Tools to Maximize Self-Control and Self-Regulation
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    https://positivepsychology.com/self-control-regulation-tools/

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    The Emotional Pause focuses on mastering emotional self-regulation to help individuals stop being 'reaction machines' when triggered. The podcast explores how to think before acting, allowing listeners to view situations clearly rather than being hijacked by intense internal tailspins. By developing emotional intelligence, you can learn to manage sharp reactions and navigate moments where you feel like a walking nerve ending.

    According to evolutionary psychology, emotions like jealousy are often adaptive behaviors rather than just toxic traits. Miles explains that jealousy can be viewed as a protective fear response or a signal that something valuable feels threatened. This perspective reframes the 'green-eyed monster' as a deep-seated instinct meant to help us protect the relationships we care about most in our lives.

    Practicing emotional self-regulation provides the ability to pause and think before reacting to emotional triggers. This skill helps prevent the exhaustion of being hijacked by emotions or blurting out sharp comments during stressful interactions with partners or coworkers. By understanding emotions as adaptive signals, you can stay in control and avoid becoming vindictive or reactive when you feel hurt or threatened.

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