Hard choices are different than you think
Struggling to choose between two paths? Learn why philosopher Ruth Chang says parity—not indecision—is the key to defining your values and character.
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Hard choices are not a sign of failure or an information deficit, but a precious opportunity to exercise our power to create reasons for ourselves and define who we are.
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Philosopher Ruth Chang view on facing difficult decisions
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Options are "on a par" when they are in the same neighborhood of value and are comparable, but neither is better than the other, nor are they exactly equal. Unlike equal options—where a small "sweetener" like an extra fifty dollars would easily break the tie—options on a par remain difficult to choose between even after a small improvement is made to one side. This "fourth dimension" of choice suggests that the difficulty isn't due to a lack of information, but because there is no objectively "right" answer waiting to be discovered in the world.
A drifter is someone who allows the world to write the story of their life by waiting for external circumstances to make a choice for them or by simply following the path of least resistance. In contrast, someone who makes a commitment exercises their "rational agency" by putting their will behind an option. When external reasons are balanced, a person who commits creates their own internal reasons for a choice, effectively "authoring" their identity rather than just reacting to data.
The concern lies in the "Value Alignment Problem," specifically that AI systems are often built on a "trichotomist" foundation—the belief that every choice has a mathematically "better, worse, or equal" answer. If we delegate hard choices to AI, the machine may "force a ranking" based on arbitrary metrics, stripping humans of the opportunity to define their own values. This could lead to a "value distortion" where people drift into lives designed by algorithms rather than through their own personal commitments.
The Small Improvement Argument is a diagnostic tool used to determine if options are truly equal or if they are "on a par." If you are torn between two choices and adding a small benefit to one (like a tiny bit of extra money or a small perk) does not make that choice clearly superior, then the options were never equal to begin with. This realization confirms that you are facing a state of parity, meaning the "external reasons" provided by the world have run out and you must now use your own agency to decide.
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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