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    Discover why we often withhold affection when upset despite craving connection, and learn practical strategies to overcome this relationship paradox that keeps us emotionally gridlocked.

    Breaking the Emotional Standoff

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    The goal isn't to override these protective instincts, but to create enough safety that they don't need to be so activated; when we understand that both withdrawal and pursuit are attempts at self-protection, we can approach these moments with compassion.

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    How to not let my emotions ruin my time with my husband. When I'm upset with him I find it hard to show him affection, even though all I want is affection. He will give me a little and it's like I'm too stubborn to give the love back

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    The Emotional Standoff Paradox

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