When Dad Has BPD: Children's Hidden Struggles

24 min

14 feb 2026

Lena and Eli explore the overlooked impact of fathers with borderline personality disorder on their children, revealing unique attachment disruptions, emotional chaos, and long-term effects-plus pathways to healing and breaking generational cycles.

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Imagine lacking emotional blood-clotting factors, where the slightest psychological wound causes you to bleed out emotionally. Now imagine being a child trying to navigate a relationship with a parent who experiences the world this way.

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Effects on children of fathers with borderline personality disorder

Voces del presentador

Lena

Eli

Fuentes de conocimiento

The Parenting Experience of Those With Borderline Personality ...

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01913/full

https://www.jccpractice.com/article/systematic-review-of-parenting-and-outcome-experienced-by-children-of-parents-of-borderline-disorder-758/

[PDF] Perceptions of Family Resiliency Among Adult Children of Parents ...

https://scholarworks.waldenu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=18265&context=dissertations

Intergenerational transmission of borderline personality disorder ...

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12269274/

Effects of Being Raised by Borderline Parents & How to Heal

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/raised-by-borderlines/

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"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

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When Dad Has BPD: Children's Hidden Struggles

24 min

14 feb 2026

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Imagine lacking emotional blood-clotting factors, where the slightest psychological wound causes you to bleed out emotionally. Now imagine being a child trying to navigate a relationship with a parent who experiences the world this way.

Puntos clave

Opening & Welcome

0:00

0:15

0:33

Topic Introduction & Source Material Setup

0:53

1:05

1:30

1:55

2:15

2:35

The Unique Challenges of Fathers with BPD

2:53

3:11

3:31

3:51

4:09

4:29

4:51

5:06

Emotional Dysregulation and Its Impact on Children

5:23

5:38

5:58

6:21

6:35

6:53

7:11

7:27

7:41

The Father-Child Attachment Disruption

7:52

0:15

8:24

8:44

8:58

9:15

9:32

9:51

3:51

10:19

Impact on Children's Emotional Development

10:33

10:44

3:31

11:17

5:58

7:27

12:12

12:30

12:46

13:03

Family Dynamics and Systemic Effects

13:19

0:15

13:49

14:07

14:24

14:41

9:32

15:14

15:30

15:48

Long-term Effects on Adult Children

16:03

16:13

3:31

7:27

17:04

17:20

17:34

17:51

18:10

18:24

18:36

Practical Applications & Listener Takeaways

18:53

0:15

19:21

19:43

7:27

20:19

20:33

20:46

21:02

21:18

21:36

Wrap-up & Closing Reflection

21:54

22:08

22:20

22:39

22:59

23:13

23:27

2:15

23:59

24:13

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Eli

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@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

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