What is *Created for Connection* about?

*Created for Connection* by Dr. Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer merges Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Christian principles to help couples build secure emotional bonds. It focuses on repairing relationships through seven structured conversations that address attachment needs, conflict patterns, and spiritual connection, emphasizing emotional responsiveness over communication tactics.

Who should read *Created for Connection*?

Christian couples seeking to deepen their emotional and spiritual connection, therapists interested in faith-integrated EFT, or anyone navigating marital conflict will benefit. It’s ideal for those valuing Biblical teachings alongside science-backed strategies for relationship repair.

Who are the authors of *Created for Connection*?

Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, and Kenneth Sanderfer, a licensed marriage therapist and certified EFT trainer, co-authored the book. Sanderfer integrates Christian theology with EFT principles, drawing from his clinical practice and role as an adjunct professor.

What are the “Seven Conversations” in *Created for Connection*?

The seven conversations guide couples to: * Recognize destructive “Demon Dialogues” (blame-shame cycles). * Identify raw emotional triggers. * Revisit pivotal conflicts. * Rebuild trust through emotional engagement. * Practice forgiveness. * Strengthen intimacy via physical touch. * Maintain long-term connection.

How does *Created for Connection* blend faith and science?

The book pairs attachment theory with Biblical teachings, framing marital love as a reflection of God’s covenant. Verses like Ephesians 4:2-3 support its emphasis on humility, patience, and unity, while EFT research validates its therapeutic framework.

What are “Demon Dialogues” in *Created for Connection*?

“Demon Dialogues” describe toxic interaction patterns like “Find the Bad Guy” (mutual blame) or “Freeze and Flee” (emotional withdrawal). These cycles erode trust, and the book provides tools to replace them with vulnerable, attachment-focused communication.

Can *Created for Connection* help save a failing marriage?

Yes. The book offers actionable steps to break negative cycles, rebuild emotional safety, and foster forgiveness. Case studies show its efficacy for couples in crisis, especially when combined with professional EFT therapy.

How does *Created for Connection* differ from secular EFT books like *Hold Me Tight*?

Unlike Johnson’s secular works, this edition explicitly ties EFT to Scripture, prayer, and Christian marriage values. It reframes attachment needs as God-given desires for relational security.

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