Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone Summary
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In "Thanks for the Feedback," Stone and Heen revolutionize how we receive criticism. This NYT bestseller transformed corporate culture and personal relationships alike. Adam Grant called it "potentially life-changing" - no wonder it's become essential reading for anyone seeking greater self-awareness and stronger connections.
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The Feedback Paradox: Why We Crave Yet Dread Others' Opinions
Your heart races. Your defenses rise. Someone just offered feedback about your work, your parenting, or your relationship skills, and suddenly you're fighting an internal battle between wanting to improve and wanting to protect your self-image. This universal reaction explains why, despite 825 million work hours spent annually on performance reviews, most feedback falls on defensive ears. Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen flip the traditional script by focusing not on giving better feedback but on receiving it more effectively. Their revolutionary approach has become a favorite among leaders at organizations like Google and the Gates Foundation because they recognize a fundamental truth: the real leverage in feedback isn't in the giving-it's in the receiving. When we learn to welcome feedback, even when it stings, we transform criticism from something we endure into fuel for growth and deeper connections.
The Three Triggers That Hijack Our Rational Mind
What Do You Really Need? Appreciation, Coaching, or Evaluation
Beyond Labels: Extracting Meaning from Vague Feedback
The Invisible You: Why Others See What You Can't
From Fixed to Growth: Building an Identity That Welcomes Feedback
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From Columbia University alumni built in San Francisco
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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