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    Life Is Hard
    Kieran Setiya
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    In "Life Is Hard," philosopher Kieran Setiya offers a refreshing antidote to toxic positivity, exploring how pain, grief, and failure connect to our deepest values. Praised by The New Yorker for showing how hardships make us "tougher, kinder, and wiser" - can suffering actually enrich your life?

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