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    John Alexander
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    Discover the controversial 2005 guide that sparked debates on modern masculinity. "How to Become an Alpha Male" offers practical confidence-building strategies that have divided readers - is John Alexander's approach to dating and self-improvement revolutionary or problematic? Judge for yourself.

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