What is *Every Man's Battle* by Stephen Arterburn about?

*Every Man's Battle* is a Christian self-help guide addressing sexual temptation, offering strategies for men to achieve "sexual integrity" through spiritual discipline and behavioral changes. The revised edition incorporates modern challenges like technology and neuroscience insights, framing lust as a battle requiring vigilance and accountability. Critics argue it oversimplifies addiction and normalizes harmful behaviors.

Who should read *Every Man's Battle*?

The book targets Christian men struggling with pornography, infidelity, or compulsive sexual behavior. It appeals to those seeking a faith-based approach to purity, though its conservative framing of gender roles and critiques of its therapeutic validity may limit its relevance for broader audiences.

Is *Every Man's Battle* worth reading?

While praised for sparking conversations about male sexuality in Christian circles, the book faces criticism for portraying women as "temptation grenades" and men as inherently predatory. Supporters highlight its actionable steps, but critics caution against its lack of psychological depth and potential to shame readers.

What are the main concepts in *Every Man's Battle*?

Key ideas include "bouncing the eyes" (avoiding lustful glances), "starving the mind" of sexual stimuli, and pursuing accountability. The authors emphasize behavioral control over addressing emotional roots, advocating strict boundaries with media and relationships. A controversial metaphor describes women as "vessels of sexual fulfillment".

What criticisms exist about *Every Man's Battle*?

Critics condemn its normalization of marital coercion, victim-blaming rhetoric, and depictions of women as dangerous objects. Survivors credit the book with exacerbating guilt in unhealthy relationships, citing passages that equate refusing sex with enabling sin. Others critique its failure to address trauma or neurobiological factors in addiction.

How does *Every Man's Battle* use biblical examples?

The book reinterprets David and Bathsheba’s story through Uriah’s perspective, portraying Bathsheba as a cherished “ewe lamb” to contrast David’s lust. This framing aims to inspire men to protect their spouses’ purity, though some argue it distorts the narrative’s focus on power abuse.

What practical advice does *Every Man's Battle* offer?

Strategies include avoiding R-rated movies, installing internet filters, and confessing temptations to an accountability partner. The authors advocate drastic measures like quitting jobs or moving homes to avoid “stumbling blocks,” prioritizing external behavior over internal healing.

How does the revised edition address modern issues?

The updated version discusses social media, dating apps, and pornography’s neurochemical effects, urging readers to “rewire” their brains through abstinence. It retains the original’s controversial metaphors but adds testimonials of men who credit the book with saving their marriages.

Every Man's Battle

Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker & Mike Yorkey

Overview of Every Man's Battle

A groundbreaking battle plan for sexual integrity that sold over a million copies. Endorsed by Dr. John Maxwell, this Christian guide tackles lust and temptation with practical strategies like "bouncing the eyes." Can one book transform your relationships while saving your spiritual life?

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Chapter 1

The Battle for Sexual Integrity in a World of Temptation

Every Man's Battle has become a cultural phenomenon since its publication, selling millions of copies worldwide and transforming countless marriages. The book has been endorsed by religious leaders, therapists, and even celebrities like Tim Tebow, who called it "essential reading for every man." What makes this book so powerful is its unflinching honesty about a topic many men struggle with silently: sexual purity in a visually stimulating world. Authors Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker don't just identify the problem-they provide a practical, tested battle plan that has helped millions of men break free from sexual impurity and reclaim their integrity, their marriages, and their spiritual lives.

Chapter 2

The Hidden Epidemic of Male Sexual Struggle

Sexual temptation is as old as humanity itself, but today's men face unprecedented challenges. We live in a culture saturated with sexual imagery-from billboards featuring scantily clad models to explicit content available at our fingertips. The authors reveal their own painful journeys through sexual impurity with remarkable candor. Steve describes crashing his Mercedes while ogling a bikini-clad jogger on the Pacific Coast Highway, then lying to his wife about the cause. Fred shares how his childhood exposure to his father's Playboy magazines led to a college life where he maintained four "steady" girlfriends simultaneously, sleeping with three while engaged to two. These aren't isolated experiences. The book reveals a hidden epidemic among men, including devoted Christians. Thad, recovering from drug dependency, feels frustrated by immodestly dressed women at church. Howard, a Sunday school teacher, has been masturbating since junior high and feels ashamed of his adulterous thoughts. Wally dreads hotel stays because he inevitably watches sexual content on TV. Even pastors aren't immune-one tearfully confessed his bondage to pornography despite his devotion to ministry. Most men maintain outward respectability while privately struggling. You might let a woman go through a door first just to check her out from behind. You might drive to watch women at the gym between appointments. You continue teaching Sunday school and supporting your family while telling yourself you're okay because you haven't had a physical affair. Yet your conscience dims until you can't distinguish right from wrong, and your sexual sin becomes predictable-like Rick who walks past a certain secretary's office daily at 9:30, or Sid who races home by 4 PM to secretly watch his neighbor sunbathe. The authors explain that most Christian men aren't full-blown sexual addicts but suffer from what they term "fractional addiction." While about 10% of men have no sexual-temptation problems and another 10% are serious sexual addicts needing intensive help, the middle 80% live in various shades of gray regarding sexual sin. These men aren't compelled to act to salve deep psychological pain but are drawn by chemical highs and sexual gratification that become habitual patterns.

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Chapter 3

God's Standard vs. Our Compromise

Why has sexual impurity become so pervasive among men, even those who sincerely love God? The authors identify a fundamental problem: we've diluted God's standard with our own. Scripture is unambiguous about sexual purity: "Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality" (Ephesians 5:3). Yet most men create a comfortable mixture when God's standard seems too difficult, gradually allowing small compromises that eventually lead to larger failures. This mixing of standards happens through three primary pathways: naivety, rebellion, or simple carelessness. Some men, like Pinocchio being lured to Adventure Island, don't fully understand the consequences of their actions. They might rationalize that viewing certain content isn't really harmful, or that "everyone else is doing it." Others, like Lampwick in the same story, know sexual impurity is wrong but do it anyway, deliberately choosing immediate gratification over spiritual integrity. Many simply dismiss God's standard as ridiculous, like the singles group that couldn't believe God expected complete sexual purity, arguing that such expectations are unrealistic in today's world. The consequences of this compromise are devastating and far-reaching. Just as the Israelites failed to destroy everything pagan in the Promised Land and became ensnared by those cultures, men become trapped when they don't eliminate every hint of sexual sin. What begins as occasional indulgence often develops into habitual behavior, affecting relationships, self-worth, and spiritual vitality. The authors argue that mixing standards destroys people spiritually, eventually leading them to "loathe themselves" for their failures-a painful but potentially transformative place where real change can begin. The authors challenge readers to examine whether they're aiming for excellence or obedience, highlighting a crucial distinction. Excellence allows room for mixture and compromise, while obedience aims for God's perfect standard. Businesses seek excellence by finding a profitable balance between quality and costs-seeming perfect without being perfect. This might work in commerce, but it's dangerous in spiritual matters. Christians who settle for excellence rather than obedience find themselves vulnerable to spiritual snares, gradually accepting lower standards that lead to deeper struggles. The path to genuine sexual purity requires understanding that God's standard isn't arbitrary but protective. It's designed to guard our hearts, minds, and relationships from damage. The authors emphasize that this standard applies to thought life as well as actions, encompassing everything from casual entertainment choices to internet usage patterns. True freedom comes not from finding an acceptable level of compromise but from embracing God's unchanging standard completely.

Chapter 4

The Male Battle: Our Nature vs. Our Calling

Even beyond our failure to meet God's standards, men find themselves vulnerable to sexual sin simply through their maleness. Four deeply ingrained male tendencies make sexual purity particularly challenging, creating a constant tension between natural impulses and spiritual calling. First, males are rebellious by nature. Paul noted to Timothy that Adam wasn't deceived when eating the forbidden fruit-he knew it was wrong but rebelled anyway. This rebellious nature continues in men today, with men committing over 90% of violent crimes, 100% of rapes, and 95% of burglaries. This inherent rebellion manifests not just in criminal behavior, but in everyday resistance to authority, rejection of wise counsel, and deliberate crossing of established boundaries. From teenage defiance to workplace insubordination, this rebellious streak runs deep in male psychology. Second, males find the "straight life" dull and boring. Dr. James Dobson describes the "straight life" as the daily grind of responsibility-waking early for work, spending money wisely, sacrificing personal time for family, and handling mundane tasks. Most men's gut response to this is "Get me outta here!" This restlessness often leads to destructive escapism through various means: risky behavior, substance abuse, inappropriate relationships, or digital distractions. The monotony of daily responsibility creates a yearning for excitement that can make sexual temptation particularly alluring. Third, males have a strong, regular sex drive. Dr. Dobson explains that men experience an accumulating physiological pressure demanding release as seminal vesicles fill, typically reaching maximum sensitivity within 72 hours. This biological reality creates a constant underlying tension that requires active management. Unlike many other physical drives, sexual urges don't simply dissipate with time but can intensify, making sexual self-control a daily challenge that requires consistent vigilance and healthy coping mechanisms. Fourth, males receive sexual gratification through their eyes. Men don't need a partner-they can draw sexual gratification through their eyes at any time, turned on by female nudity in any form. Women rarely understand this visual aspect of male sexuality because their ignition is tied to touch and relationship. This visual vulnerability has become increasingly challenging in our digital age, where provocative images are constantly available through smartphones, advertisements, and entertainment media. What previous generations encountered occasionally, modern men face dozens of times daily. Given these realities, how do men escape sexual sin without eliminating their maleness? The answer is to choose to be more than male; to choose manhood. When our fathers told us to "be a man about it," they were encouraging us to rise above our natural tendencies. Our heavenly Father also exhorts us to be men, calling us to rise above our natural tendencies to impure eyes, fanciful minds, and wandering hearts. This transformation requires developing spiritual disciplines, accountability relationships, and practical strategies for managing these inherent male tendencies. True manhood isn't the absence of these challenges but the mature handling of them through wisdom, self-control, and divine grace.

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Chapter 5

The Decision Point: Choosing Victory

Like World War II veteran B.J. "Bernie" Baker who fought cancer with unwavering determination and a strategic battle plan, men must decide to fight sexual impurity with the same resolute mindset and tactical approach. The alternative is to remain spiritually dead in sin, trapped in a cycle of defeat and shame. Despite expecting initial setbacks and difficulties, ultimate victory requires developing such a deep hatred for your sin that you're willing to wage an all-out war against it, similar to how nations mobilize every resource during wartime. Those who repeatedly fail in this battle never truly developed sufficient hatred for their impurity. Ben's story illustrates this - he continued purchasing Playboy magazines month after month because he "didn't hate them enough" to make the difficult choice to cancel his subscription. Kirk rationalized his inappropriate behavior at work as "commonplace," telling himself that everyone else engaged in similar conduct. Only when seventeen-year-old Ronnie's sexual fantasies unexpectedly turned homosexual did he finally seek help in terror, demonstrating how many men wait until crisis points before taking decisive action. Victory requires developing such an intense hatred for impurity that you're willing to wage total war against it, marshaling every available resource - accountability partners, counseling, software filters, lifestyle changes - to defeat this enemy. The encouraging news is that God has already provided everything necessary for a life of sexual purity through Christ's finished work. At Calvary, He purchased both our freedom from sin's power and the authority to live purely, delivered through the Holy Spirit's active presence within believers. This divine connection gives immediate access to God's unlimited power and precious promises, allowing genuine escape from worldly corruption. Like a soldier equipped with superior weapons and armor, believers have divine resources at their disposal. Sexual purity ultimately doesn't require more power but rather the courage to make decisive choices in critical moments. In that instant of decision, when temptation presents itself, the Holy Spirit begins actively guiding through the struggle, providing wisdom and strength. While many blame God for their continued defeats, claiming insufficient help, Scripture clearly states believers are "dead to sin but alive to God" and "set free from sin's dominion." Sexual impurity isn't like a tumor requiring divine surgical removal but rather the predictable result of poor decisions, immature character, and failure to utilize available resources. Just as a soldier must choose to use his weapons effectively, believers must actively engage in the battle using God's provided means of victory.

Chapter 6

The Battle Plan: Eyes, Mind, and Heart

The authors provide a comprehensive battle plan for sexual purity with three defense perimeters: your eyes, your mind, and your heart. The first defense perimeter involves training your eyes to "bounce" away from pretty women and sensual images immediately. This reflex action must become automatic, like jerking your hand from a hot stove. The immediacy is crucial because the chemical high from looking happens quickly. Like any habit, consistently bouncing your eyes for about twenty-one days will create a new pattern. Fred identified his six biggest visual weaknesses: lingerie advertisements, female joggers in tight shorts, billboards with scantily clad women, beer-and-bikini commercials, PG-13 or higher movies, and receptionists with revealing clothing. For each weakness, he created specific defenses. For lingerie ads, he established rules: never picking up materials if his motive was to see something sensual, tearing off sensual magazine covers, and starting from the back of store inserts. For female joggers, he learned to look at the opposite side of the road, using peripheral vision which couldn't trigger lust. Beyond bouncing the eyes, men must also starve their eyes of sexual gratification from outside sources. Using an imaginary unit of "bowls" to measure sexual gratification, Fred explains that if a man needs ten bowls weekly, he might draw five from cultural imagery and only five from his wife. When a man starves his eyes of outside sexual gratification, he'll crave the only "food" available-his wife. This creates a dramatic shift in the marriage as his desire for her intensifies. The second defense perimeter involves controlling your mind. While the eye's defense perimeter functions like the Berlin Wall (allowing no visual entry), the mind's defense works like a customs station, filtering what enters your thoughts. When attraction strikes-like with a new coworker-your response determines your mental purity. The less you know about someone, the more blanks your mind fills creatively with fantasy. Facts are "killer viruses" to attractions-learning someone is happily married with children makes it harder to maintain inappropriate fantasies about them. The third defense perimeter involves cherishing your wife. God's purpose is for your marriage to parallel Christ's relationship with His church-to be one with your wife. When selfish expectations aren't met, we become frustrated, eroding our will to maintain purity. "If this is how she's going to be, why should I go through all the effort?" But cherishing your wife includes being sexually pure, and this can't be left to feelings alone. Fred realized his wedding promise wasn't conditional-whether his wife fed him meat and potatoes or metaphorical gravel, he would keep his promise to love and cherish her. While wives have responsibilities too, our focus must be on our own sharp edges, not hers. God established unconditional covenants because He knew conditions always change.

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Chapter 7

The Rewards of Sexual Purity

Choosing sexual purity requires significant sacrifice and unwavering commitment, but it offers transformative rewards that touch every aspect of life: restored relationships with God, spouse, children, and ministry. This victory systematically rebuilds what sexual sin had methodically destroyed, creating a foundation for authentic living and deep connection. Sin had created an insurmountable barrier in Fred's life, making it impossible for him to look at himself in mirrors or meet God's gaze in prayer. Sexual sin had become his private "sex chamber" - a locked room that even Jesus couldn't enter, causing his relationship with God to wither and fragment. Like the prodigal son in Scripture, Fred discovered he needed to take that crucial first step toward home by making an unbreakable covenant with his eyes. When he finally broke free, the resulting freedom brought an almost tangible lightness to his soul, replacing the suffocating darkness of sexual sin with clarity and peace. This spiritual transformation manifested in renewed prayer life, deeper Bible study, and restored fellowship with other believers. The impact of sexual sin had created invisible walls between Fred and his wife Brenda, preventing him from fully giving himself emotionally to their marriage. His "private" sex life had erected barriers of shame and secrecy that poisoned their intimacy. However, once he committed fully to purity and abandoned his secret world, trust began flowing naturally between them. Their relationship transformed as they developed complete transparency about struggles and victories. His wife no longer harbors fears about potential affairs because their open communication about purity has given her complete peace. By deliberately starving his eyes of everything sensual except her, he rediscovered her beauty in profound ways - finding her increasingly captivating with each passing year. Most importantly, she knows with certainty that she alone holds his heart and desire. Breaking generational sin patterns creates a powerful legacy that ripples through future generations. Fred came from a family where men habitually consumed pornography and betrayed their wives' trust, and he initially followed that destructive pattern unconsciously. But after achieving victory through accountability, prayer, and unwavering commitment to purity, he witnessed a profound moment of transformation: his sixteen-year-old son confidently walked away from pornography when friends offered it, decisively breaking the generational chain of addiction. This victory created a new family narrative of integrity and faithfulness that will influence generations to come. Fred's example showed his children that with God's help, they can overcome any inherited weakness and chart a different course. The rewards of sexual purity extend beyond personal freedom to impact marriages, families, and entire generations with healing and hope. While the journey requires vigilance and sacrifice, the resulting freedom and restoration make every difficult step worthwhile.

Chapter 8

Tools for the Battle

While bouncing and starving the eyes may appear straightforward in concept, they're remarkably challenging strategies to implement in daily life. Satan wages warfare through sophisticated lies and deception, while your body resists change through deeply entrenched neural pathways and habitual responses. To emerge victorious in this battle, you need both offensive and defensive weapons - a sword and a shield - which form perhaps the most critical component of your battle plan. The sword in this spiritual arsenal must be precise and readily deployable. Rather than trying to memorize multiple verses that prove unwieldy in the heat of temptation, you need one quick, agile Bible verse as your "attack verse." The specifically recommended verse is the powerful opening declaration of Job 31: "I have made a covenant with my eyes." This verse serves as an immediate response when temptation strikes. When you catch yourself looking at someone inappropriately, speak it sharply and decisively: "No, I've made a covenant with my eyes. I can't do that!" The brevity and clarity of this verse make it an effective weapon in moment-by-moment battles. Your shield - a protective verse for deeper meditation even outside moments of direct temptation - may prove even more crucial than your sword. The recommended shield-verse derives from 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, distilled to its essential truth: "You have no right to look at that or think about it. You haven't the authority." This shield helps reshape your fundamental thinking about temptation and authority. Satan's power largely resides in your presumed right to make autonomous decisions about your behavior - if you thoroughly reject this supposed authority, temptation loses its foundational power. This verse reminds you that your body belongs to God, not yourself. After implementing these strategies, expect a predictable timeline of progress and transformation. The initial two weeks typically bring repeated failures and discouragements as new habits struggle against ingrained patterns. However, by weeks three and four, you'll begin experiencing victories as frequently as defeats, marking the first signs of real progress. During weeks five and six, your eyes will develop consistency in bouncing away from sensual triggers, and you'll notice a tangible lifting of spiritual oppression. The hedge of protection grows increasingly robust over time, though vigilance remains essential, particularly during challenging seasons like summer when modest dress becomes less common. Long-term success requires understanding that this is a marathon, not a sprint. After approximately one year of faithful practice, major battles will significantly decrease as bouncing becomes an automatic response and your brain develops new neural pathways that facilitate quick rejection of inappropriate visual stimuli. However, maintaining awareness and reinforcing these defenses remains important, especially during vulnerable periods or circumstances that might trigger old patterns.

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Chapter 9

A Decade Later: The Results of Victory

Ten years after Every Man's Battle was first published, Fred reflects on what a decade of sexual purity has meant for his life and family. His eyes remained under control, not just avoiding obvious temptations but developing a natural reflex to look away from potentially compromising situations. His wife Brenda gained incredible security knowing he kept his eyes to himself, which transformed their marriage from one of underlying tension to deep trust. This change manifested in everything from their daily interactions to how they navigated social situations together. The most profound impact appeared in how this transformation affected the next generation. His son Jasen broke generational patterns by turning away from pornography, demonstrating that the cycle of sexual addiction can be broken. While Fred at 23 was sleeping with multiple women and struggling with pornography addiction, Jasen's story took a radically different path. At the same age, Jasen married his wife having never kissed a girl before his wedding day - a choice that reflected not just abstinence but a deeper understanding of sexual integrity and respect. Jasen's journey proved particularly remarkable in an age of widespread internet access and normalized casual relationships. He never became hooked on pornography or masturbation, maintaining boundaries that many considered impossible in modern society. Perhaps most significantly, he never left a girlfriend worse for having known him - a stark contrast to the trail of emotional damage that often accompanies sexual relationships outside of marriage. His life stands as living proof that sexual purity is possible even in today's hypersexualized culture. Fred openly acknowledges the paralyzing fear many men face when considering revealing their sexual secrets. The shame, potential consequences, and fear of rejection can seem overwhelming. However, he emphasizes that hope invariably dawns in the midst of confession, sharing numerous examples of restoration. One powerful testimony comes from Amber, who discovered complete healing in her marriage after the devastating revelation of her husband's sexual sin. Their story didn't end with confession - they transformed their pain into purpose, now leading support groups at their church where dozens of couples have found similar healing. The authors conclude with a powerful challenge that resonates beyond mere behavioral modification: "Take up your life and write Him a testimony. This time around, make it one for the ages." This battle for sexual integrity transcends avoiding sin - it's about embracing God's original design for sexuality and relationships. When men choose this path, they often discover that their marriages become more intimate, their leadership more authentic, and their impact more lasting. The victory extends beyond personal transformation to influence families, churches, and future generations, creating a legacy of sexual integrity in a world desperate for such examples.

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Key Themes in Every Man's Battle

sexual integrity
pornography addiction recovery
biblical masculinity
thought life discipline
marital fidelity

Quotes from Every Man's Battle

Most men maintain outward respectability while privately struggling.
We've diluted God's standard with our own.
Excellence allows room for mixture and compromise.
Males are rebellious by nature.
Males find the 'straight life' dull and boring.

Characters in Every Man's Battle

Stephen ArterburnCo-author who shares his journey of impurity
Fred StoekerCo-author who details his struggle with integrity
ThadCase study of a man recovering from drug dependency
HowardSunday school teacher struggling with his thoughts
WallyCase study of a man struggling during hotel stays

About the Author

Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey are the bestselling authors of Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, a groundbreaking Christian self-help book addressing sexual integrity and addiction.

Arterburn, a Gold Medallion Award-winning author and founder of New Life Ministries, combines clinical insights with biblical principles from his decades of counseling experience. Stoeker, co-founder of Living True Ministries, brings a focus on practical spiritual disciplines drawn from his work empowering men through accountability frameworks. Yorkey, an accomplished collaborator on faith-based projects, contributes editorial precision to this collaborative effort.

The authors’ expertise spans media platforms, with Arterburn featured on Oprah, Good Morning America, and ABC World News Tonight, while their combined works—including the Every Man’s Battle Workbook and Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle—have shaped modern Christian discourse on purity. Their complementary backgrounds in counseling, ministry, and publishing anchor the book’s blend of psychological rigor and scriptural fidelity.

With over 4 million copies sold, Every Man’s Battle remains a cornerstone of faith-based recovery literature, endorsed by churches and support groups worldwide.

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Every Man's Battle

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The Battle for Sexual Integrity in a World of Temptation

The Hidden Epidemic of Male Sexual Struggle

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God's Standard vs. Our Compromise

The Male Battle: Our Nature vs. Our Calling

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The Decision Point: Choosing Victory

The Battle Plan: Eyes, Mind, and Heart

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The Rewards of Sexual Purity

Tools for the Battle

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A Decade Later: The Results of Victory

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One book. Many ways to hear it.

The Battle for Sexual Integrity in a World of Temptation

The Hidden Epidemic of Male Sexual Struggle

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God's Standard vs. Our Compromise

The Male Battle: Our Nature vs. Our Calling

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The Decision Point: Choosing Victory

The Battle Plan: Eyes, Mind, and Heart

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The Rewards of Sexual Purity

Tools for the Battle

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A Decade Later: The Results of Victory

You made it to the end of Every Man's Battle

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