Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Maté Summary
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In "Hold On to Your Kids," renowned doctors Neufeld and Mate reveal why children's peer orientation threatens healthy development. Winner of the National Parenting Gold Award, this revolutionary book - endorsed by Dr. Mary Pipher - shows how reclaiming parental influence can transform your child's emotional wellbeing.
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The Crisis Hiding in Plain Sight
Something has shifted in the landscape of childhood, and most of us sense it without quite understanding what's changed. Parents who love their children deeply find themselves locked in daily battles over homework, screen time, and basic respect. Teachers watch students tune out their guidance while obsessing over what their friends think. We've blamed technology, permissive parenting, or some mysterious character flaw in modern youth. But the real culprit is far more fundamental: children are raising each other. For the first time in human history, young people are turning to other young people-not parents, teachers, or caring adults-as their primary source of orientation, values, and identity. This phenomenon, called peer orientation, has quietly eroded the natural attachment bonds that made parenting work for millennia. It's not that we love our children less or know less about parenting techniques. The ground itself has shifted beneath our feet. Think about twelve-year-old Jeremy, locked in daily combat with his father over computer time, choosing online chats with friends over homework and family dinners. His parents feel helpless, their guidance bouncing off him like rain off glass. What's happening here isn't a discipline problem or a phase-it's an attachment crisis. Children come into the world with an orienting instinct as powerful as a duckling's imprint. They need someone to follow, someone to show them how the world works. When that someone is a mature, caring adult, development unfolds naturally. But children's attachment systems don't discriminate between adults and peers. They'll orient to whoever is most present, most emotionally available, most compelling. The brain can only follow one compass at a time. When peers become that compass, everything changes.
The Architecture of Attachment and How It Gets Hijacked
The Cultural Collapse That Created This Crisis
When Authority Crumbles and Resistance Hardens
The Emotional Shutdown and Dangerous Numbing
Collecting Our Children and Restoring Connection
Holding On When It Matters Most
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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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