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Julie Lythcott-Haims

Julie Lythcott-Haims is an American author and speaker whose work explores parenting, higher education, race, identity, and adulting. A former Stanford dean, she is best known for the New York Times bestseller How to Raise an Adult, as well as the memoir Real American and the guide Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.

传记与作者历程

Julie Lythcott-Haims built her public voice from a life lived across institutions, identities, and regions. She grew up in New York, Wisconsin, and Northern Virginia as the only child of an African-American father and a white British mother, experiences that later became central to her writing about belonging and race. She earned an undergraduate degree in American Studies from Stanford, a J.D. from Harvard Law School, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. Before becoming widely known as an author, she practiced corporate law, joined Stanford Law School as an associate dean, and then spent 14 years at Stanford, including a decade as dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising. Leaving university administration to pursue writing marked the major turn in her career. ((https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/real-american))

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名言

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I am not wiser than you
-Your Turn Excerpt
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I’m rooting for all of us to be okay
-Your Turn Excerpt
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Childhood needs to teach our kids how to love
-How to Raise Successful Kids Without Overparenting
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They need to know they matter to us as humans, not because of their GPA
-How to Raise Successful Kids Without Overparenting
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My existence was a ripple in an otherwise smooth sheet
-Real American
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What are you good at? What do you love?
-How to Be an Adult – and How to Raise One
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I finally located a self I could love within blackness
-Here & Now interview
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Lead with love—be love—as often as you possibly can
-Walking Each Other Home
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It IS just up to you
-5 Tips

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Be a Better Parent

Be a Better Parent

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Be a Better Parent

This learning plan is designed for parents and caregivers seeking a modern, evidence-based approach to raising resilient children. It bridges the gap between foundational attachment theory and practical strategies for navigating the complexities of adolescence and family life.

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Master Self-Discipline & Adulting Basics

Master Self-Discipline & Adulting Basics

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Master Self-Discipline & Adulting Basics

This plan bridges the gap between childhood and true independence by teaching essential life skills often ignored in traditional education. It is ideal for young professionals or anyone feeling overwhelmed by the demands of modern adulthood.

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Self-Improvement, Habits & Mindful Parenting

Self-Improvement, Habits & Mindful Parenting

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Self-Improvement, Habits & Mindful Parenting

This plan is designed for parents and individuals seeking to align personal growth with family dynamics. It bridges the gap between habit formation and emotional intelligence, making it ideal for those wanting to raise children with presence while maintaining their own mental well-being.

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Parent Better, Learn Philosophy & New Skills

Parent Better, Learn Philosophy & New Skills

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Parent Better, Learn Philosophy & New Skills

This plan is designed for parents and lifelong learners who want to move beyond reactive habits toward a more intentional life. It bridges the gap between developmental psychology, practical philosophy, and the science of learning to help individuals grow alongside their children.

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Raise Mentally Resilient Children

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In today's complex world, children face unprecedented challenges to their mental wellbeing. This learning plan equips parents with evidence-based strategies to foster resilience in their children, helping them develop the emotional strength and adaptability needed to navigate life's inevitable difficulties.

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Grow skills, parent & thrive

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Grow skills, parent & thrive

This learning plan is designed for parents who want to move beyond reactive parenting to intentional, connection-based approaches that nurture both their children and themselves. It's ideal for parents feeling overwhelmed, seeking more effective discipline strategies, or wanting to raise emotionally intelligent children while maintaining their own well-being. Whether you're a new parent or looking to refresh your approach, this plan provides practical tools for creating a thriving family dynamic.

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Raise kind, respectful sons

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Raise kind, respectful sons

Raising boys in today's world requires intentional parenting that balances strength with emotional intelligence and respect with confidence. This learning plan is essential for parents who want to counter harmful stereotypes and toxic masculinity while nurturing their sons into kind, emotionally healthy men. It's particularly valuable for mothers and fathers seeking practical, research-backed strategies to navigate the unique challenges boys face in modern society.

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"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure"

Madeline Levine

"Julie Lythcott-Haims is patient, vulnerable, incisive, and encouraging"

Ibram X. Kendi

"Julie Lythcott-Haims’ memoir, Real American, is not only worth the paper on which it is written, it is priceless"

LaDoris Hazzard Cordell

"Julie Lythcott-Haims has long been one of America’s finest minds and fiercest voices"

Daniel H. Pink

"They say there’s no manual for being a grown-up, but former Stanford dean Julie Lythcott-Haims has finally created one—and it’s a must-read"

Lori Gottlieb

"Fierce and emphatic from the first page, Julie Lythcott-Haims’s self-searching memoir unrolls her own relationship to race"

The Improper Bostonian

"Julie Lythcott-Haims understands that the goal of parenting should be to raise autonomous adults"

William Deresiewicz

"Julie Lythcott-Haims's Real American fuses autobiography with politics"

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