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    Explore the hidden cost of leaky boundaries in the workplace. Learn how porous barriers between your private and professional life can lead to boundary violations.

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    Every disclosure to a boss carries a hidden question: 'Does this make me more of a person or more of a problem?' In a corporate environment, that’s often the filter managers are using, even subconsciously.

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    So I went back to work and my boss came and talked to me about a bill then before that he had seen I had surgery cause I was walking slow and after talking me about the bill he said why would you do that? You will get no clients comments on my body my therapist said that I had opened the door to him long before that and I need to become aware when I share person stuff but I don’t know how to identify the line between opening a door and not and do I just not open the door at all? Or certain indi

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    Leaky boundaries occur when the barrier between your inner world and your work world becomes too porous. This often happens when you share personal details or medical information in an attempt to find support or connection during difficult times. When these boundaries are leaky, you may unintentionally give colleagues or supervisors access to private parts of your life that they have not earned the right to see, potentially leading to unprofessional interactions.

    When professional boundaries are not clearly defined, it can lead to significant violations of personal medical privacy. For example, a supervisor might make insensitive comments about your body or medical choices following a surgery. While such comments are always unprofessional, leaky boundaries can make the transition between your private life and professional environment feel confusing and vulnerable, leaving you open to comments that feel like a total violation of your personal space.

    No, having leaky boundaries is not about taking blame for a boss's bad behavior or insensitive comments. Professionalism dictates that comments regarding your body or personal medical choices are always inappropriate in the workplace. However, understanding the concept of leaky boundaries helps identify how the space between your private and professional life became porous, allowing you to better protect your inner world from workplace violations in the future.

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