Nia and Eli decode the psychology behind anxious attachment breakups and explore what really happens when you show up unannounced after your ex goes silent.

Anxious attachment ex boyf who loves me suddenly broke up & went no contact. Ik he wants to b w me. If I go see him in 3 weeks to talk howwill hereact


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Nia: Hey everyone, welcome to another personalized episode from BeFreed! I'm Nia, and honestly, I'm so excited to dive into today's topic because it's something so many of us have been through.
Eli: And I'm Eli! Oh my gosh, yes-we're talking about one of the most emotionally complex situations out there. When someone with anxious attachment gets blindsided by a breakup and then wonders if showing up unannounced is the answer. This is going to be such an important conversation.
Nia: Right? Because that urge to just go and fix things-I think we've all felt that desperation at some point.