What is *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It* about?

*Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It* by Lois P. Frankel and Carol Frohlinger offers 99 strategies to help women overcome societal conditioning that prioritizes politeness over self-advocacy. It addresses “nice girl syndrome”—behaviors like avoiding conflict or over-apologizing—and teaches readers to set boundaries, negotiate effectively, and transition from people-pleasing to becoming “winning women” in careers, relationships, and life.

Who should read *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It*?

This book is ideal for women who feel overlooked, struggle to voice their needs, or face challenges asserting themselves professionally or personally. It’s particularly relevant for those navigating male-dominated workplaces, managing interpersonal dynamics, or seeking to balance kindness with self-advocacy.

Is *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It* worth reading?

Yes, for its actionable advice on reframing societal expectations. Readers praise its concise, practical tactics—like rejecting unnecessary apologies or handling criticism—though some critique its focus on individual behavior over systemic issues.

How does *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It* differ from Frankel’s *Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office*?

While *Corner Office* targets workplace-specific barriers, *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It* expands to personal life, offering broader strategies for asserting needs in relationships, family, and daily interactions. Both emphasize unlearning “girlhood” socialization.

What are the main strategies in *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It*?

Key strategies include: - Replacing self-deprecation with confident acceptance of compliments. - Using “Plexiglas shields” to deflect unwarranted criticism. - Prioritizing transactional reciprocity over one-sided generosity. - Avoiding over-apologizing and setting clear personal boundaries.

What does the “Plexiglas shields” metaphor mean?

The term advises women to develop emotional resilience against negativity or jealousy. Like transparent armor, it allows visibility but blocks harmful remarks from affecting self-esteem or progress.

How does the book address workplace negotiation?

It critiques women’s reluctance to negotiate (citing *Women Don’t Ask*) and provides scripts for advocating raises, projects, or recognition. Tips include framing requests as mutually beneficial and anticipating resistance.

What criticisms exist about *Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It*?

Some argue it overemphasizes personal responsibility, downplaying systemic sexism. Critics note dated views on appearance and a potential “victim-blaming” tone when addressing ingrained socialization.

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『Nice Girls Just Don't Get It（邦題：なぜ、彼女は「いい人」をやめられないのか）』が、なぜ世界中の働く女性にとって不可欠なバイブルとなったのか、その理由を解き明かしましょう。エグゼクティブ・コーチのマーシャル・ゴールドスミスも推奨するフランケルのベストセラーは、女性が自らの力を発揮することを阻む「101の自己破壊的な間違い」を明らかにしています。それは、シェリル・サンドバーグさえも認めるであろう成功の秘訣です。

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第1章

Introduction: The Nice Girl Problem

Have you ever felt invisible? Taken advantage of? Reluctant or unable to articulate what you really want? If so, welcome to the nice girls club. I'm Lois Frankel, and along with my co-author Carol Frohlinger, we're here to help you transform from a nice girl into a winning woman. Nice girls are those more concerned with pleasing others than addressing their own needs. They haven't yet learned how to overcome the childhood messages and cultural stereotypes that keep them from getting their voices heard, their needs met, and the lives they want. But that's about to change. In this book, we'll explore seven key strategies and 99 supporting tactics that every winning woman should know. By the time you finish, you'll have the tools to win respect, achieve success, and create the life you truly desire - all without sacrificing your inherent kindness and compassion.

第2章

Part 1: Understanding the Nice Girl Syndrome

Let's start by understanding what it means to be a "nice girl" and why it's holding you back. Nice girls are taught from a young age to be polite, accommodating, and to avoid conflict at all costs. While these traits can make you likable, they often come at the expense of your own needs and desires. Nice girls tend to: • Avoid asking for what they want directly • Apologize excessively, even when they've done nothing wrong • Take on extra work to be helpful, often to their own detriment • Struggle to say "no" to requests, even unreasonable ones • Downplay their own accomplishments and expertise Sound familiar? Don't worry, you're not alone. Many women struggle with these behaviors, but the good news is they can be unlearned. The first step is recognizing these patterns in yourself.

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第3章

Part 2: From Nice Girl to Winning Woman

So what does it mean to be a "winning woman" instead? Winning women understand that being kind and being assertive are not mutually exclusive. They've learned to factor their own needs in with those of others, to confront disrespect, and to maintain healthy boundaries in their relationships. Winning women: • Communicate their wants and needs clearly and directly • Take credit for their accomplishments • Say "no" to requests that don't align with their priorities • Negotiate for what they deserve in work and life • Stand up for themselves and others when treated unfairly The shift from nice girl to winning woman doesn't happen overnight. It takes practice and persistence. But with each small win, you'll gain confidence and momentum.

第4章

Part 3: Practical Strategies for Success

Now let's look at some practical ways to put these principles into action. One of the most powerful things you can do is learn to ask for what you want - directly and without apology. For example, instead of hinting that you'd like help with housework, try saying to your partner: "I need you to take on half of the household chores. Can we sit down and divide up the tasks fairly?" Notice there's no apologizing, no minimizing the request. Another key strategy is learning to say "no" gracefully but firmly. When asked to take on an extra project at work that you don't have capacity for, you might say: "I appreciate you thinking of me for this, but my plate is full right now. I wouldn't be able to give it the attention it deserves." Remember, saying "no" to some things allows you to say "yes" to what really matters to you. It's not selfish - it's essential for maintaining balance and achieving your goals.

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Part 4: Navigating Difficult Conversations

Many nice girls struggle with confrontation, but learning to handle difficult conversations is crucial for success. Whether it's addressing a colleague who's taking credit for your work or discussing relationship issues with your partner, these talks are necessary for growth. The key is to prepare in advance and stay focused on the issue at hand. Use "I" statements to express your feelings without attacking. For instance: "I felt frustrated when my idea was presented without acknowledgment. In the future, I'd appreciate credit for my contributions." Practice having these conversations with a trusted friend first. The more you do it, the more comfortable you'll become. And remember, most people respect those who can articulate their thoughts and feelings clearly and calmly.

第6章

Part 5: Building Your Confidence

Confidence is key to becoming a winning woman, but it's not about bravado or arrogance. True confidence comes from knowing your worth and being willing to stand up for it. Start by taking stock of your strengths and accomplishments. Keep a "success journal" where you record your achievements, big and small. Review it regularly, especially before important meetings or negotiations. Challenge yourself to speak up more in meetings. If you have an idea, share it. If you disagree with something, say so respectfully. Each time you do this, you're building your confidence muscle. And here's a powerful tip: stand up straight and take up space. Your body language affects how others perceive you and how you feel about yourself. Practice power poses before important events - it really works!

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第7章

Part 6: Creating the Life You Want

Becoming a winning woman isn't just about succeeding at work - it's about creating a life that truly fulfills you. This means getting clear on your values and priorities, and then aligning your choices with them. Take time to envision your ideal life. What does it look like? How do you spend your time? Who are you with? Once you have a clear picture, start taking steps to make it a reality. This might mean having tough conversations with loved ones about your needs. It might mean saying no to social obligations that drain you. It might mean taking risks to pursue your dreams. Remember, you have the right to create the life you want. You don't need permission from anyone else. As a winning woman, you have the power to shape your own destiny.

第8章

Conclusion

Transforming from a nice girl to a winning woman is a journey, not a destination. There will be setbacks along the way, but don't let them discourage you. Each time you assert yourself, negotiate successfully, or stand up for what you believe in, you're growing stronger. The world needs more winning women - women who are kind and assertive, compassionate and strong. By embracing these qualities in yourself, you're not only improving your own life, but you're also paving the way for other women to do the same. So go forth and win, my friends. The corner office - and the life you truly desire - are waiting for you.

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『いい子を卒業して、もっと幸せになる。』の名言

Nice girls are those more concerned with pleasing others than addressing their own needs.
Being kind and being assertive are not mutually exclusive.
Saying 'no' to some things allows you to say 'yes' to what really matters to you.
True confidence comes from knowing your worth and being willing to stand up for it.
You have the right to create the life you want.

『いい子を卒業して、もっと幸せになる。』の登場人物

Lois P. FrankelAuthor and expert on women's empowerment
Carol FrohlingerCo-author and advocate for winning women

著者について

ロイス・P・フランケル博士（Lois P. Frankel, PhD）は、ベストセラー『Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It』の著者であり、国際的に認められた職場行動学のエキスパートです。彼女はコーポレート・コーチング・インターナショナルの社長を務めており、女性のリーダーシップ開発における先駆者でもあります。

フランケル博士のキャリアに焦点を当てた著書には、『ニューヨーク・タイムズ』や『ウォール・ストリート・ジャーナル』でベストセラーとなった『Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office』（邦題：なぜか「仕事ができる」と言われる女性の習慣）や『Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich』などがあり、心理学的な洞察と実践的な戦略を融合させています。これらのリソースは、女性が仕事や経済的な場面において、自らを妨げてしまう行動を克服する手助けをしています。

NBCの『Today Show』、CNN、PBSなどの番組にコメンテーターとして頻繁に出演する傍ら、フランケル博士はマイクロソフトやGEといったフォーチュン500企業へのアドバイザーも務めてきました。また、カリフォルニア州知事主催の「女性と家族のための会議」などの主要なイベントで基調講演を行っています。

25以上の言語に翻訳されている彼女の著作は、数十年にわたるエグゼクティブ・コーチングの経験と、キャリアアップのための研究に基づいた枠組みを組み合わせています。『Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office』は、職場の力学に関するクイズとして『Jeopardy!』の問題にも採用されるなど、今なお文化的な指標であり続けています。

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1冊の本。さまざまな聴き方。

Introduction: The Nice Girl Problem

Part 1: Understanding the Nice Girl Syndrome

聴きながら、すべての言葉を目で追えます

Part 2: From Nice Girl to Winning Woman

Part 3: Practical Strategies for Success

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Part 4: Navigating Difficult Conversations

Part 5: Building Your Confidence

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Part 6: Creating the Life You Want

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Part 2: From Nice Girl to Winning Woman

Part 3: Practical Strategies for Success

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Part 4: Navigating Difficult Conversations

Part 5: Building Your Confidence

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